Everyone's destiny is different. Really determining a person's life level is never money but your mode of thinking. The mode of thinking brings different kinds of action and brings reinvention of self-destiny.
Psychology Growth Thinking
- Growth thinking life is growing
Growth thinking is an important thinking in psychology and he is opposed to solid thinking. When a person has a growth-oriented mindset they tend to be stronger and less afraid of failure.
Growth thinking emphasizes that everything is treated with a growth perspective to bring positive value and meaning to yourself. So the occurrence of anything in their eyes has never completely denied it but knows to actively reflect and think.
Zeng Guofan a person with growing thinking is a typical example. His IQ is blunt but the thing he always insists on is reflection. In this habit he grows fast such as the classic saying he left others say that he is defeated repeatedly and he himself says it is repeated. The defeat of the two wars the difference between the two words but reflects his understanding of failure.
It is because of this strong reflective ability that he can grow faster than others. Many people go through it every day and Zeng Guofan he never gives up on his daily review and questioning. It is this kind of reflection and iteration that makes him a generation of great Confucianism.
Psychology Level of Life
- anti-fragility learn to hedge risk
Second the second level that determines the growth of our lives is anti-fragility. There is a classic saying that those who have not beaten us will make us shine. Those who truly have anti-fragility will know how to laugh at the end.
What is anti-fragility is that in the face of uncertainty we take the initiative to embrace risks and have the ability to hedge risks. For example if we work if we don't work we will be unemployed. This represents our extreme dependence on work. This is a kind of fragility.
But when we have other abilities even when we are not working we can have financial freedom which means we have anti-fragility which is an arrangement for us to deal with risks.
I used to work in a state-owned enterprise. I have a colleague. He is a financial staff member. His salary is very ordinary but the money he earned in the past was basically used to buy a house. At that time the house price was very low. He bought four or five houses so in the later period even if he didn't have to work he could support himself by rent.
I know another friend. He is also a state-owned enterprise. Although he has a stable job in state-owned enterprises he has always had a crisis. He has been insisting on writing for many years. In recent years his income from the media has exceeded the salary of state-owned enterprises and he also No longer afraid of failure the media has given him more opportunities and fame.
In a sense when a person has anti-fragility we can better arrange life and do not fear the risk of life thus gaining higher vision and opportunities than others.
Psychology don't complain
- Don't complain everything is inward
The third way to determine the level of our lives is not to complain. Not complaining is a kind of wisdom and courage. Not complaining is also a proper responsibility to yourself. When we have a third kind of thinking learning everything inward is an important development of our own potential.
There is a saying that if you are in full bloom the butterfly will come. If you are wonderful the sky will be arranged. Everything is inward. Sometimes we always complain. In fact we are all right with the world. We just read it wrong and we misread the world. We like to complain that the world has deceived us. The world is essentially a mirror image of one's heart. What is it like? What is the world in the eye?
When we have been complaining everything is useless and more importantly we understand and reshape the world with our heart. This is the best attitude we face in the world.
There is a story about a person who bought a pair of running shoes and a net in order to get a beautiful butterfly. He put on his sneakers and kept chasing butterflies but he was sweating and only caught a few. And the butterfly is struggling in the net and there is no beauty at all. Whenever there is a chance the butterfly will fly away. Some people say that this is called "pursuit."
The other person also likes butterflies. He bought a few pots of flowers on the window sill then sat quietly reading in front of his window looking at the butterflies feeling like a butterfly sucking honey. This is called "attraction."
In fact everything is inward that is this deep meaning when you change your world will change. When we change our mindset and do ourselves well many problems will be solved.
All power is sought inward rather than outward. All greatness comes from a firm and courageous heart. All life on the road is at your own feet. The essence of seeking inward is to perfect oneself strengthen oneself enhance our pattern and vision and we can see a better world.