Trust Yourself "Give yourself all your Trust"

we have already everything we need to change ourselves.....

When I was around 17 to 18 years old, I was hoping to win the lottery one day – and I’m pretty sure many people have had similar wishes, at least in some stages in their lives.
Hitting the jackpot is a tempting idea, especially because it would have allowed me to eliminate all the trivial problems in my life.
I would not have had to bother with the struggles in my job, the defusing and demanding customers and the many other challenges that came with life.
To make a long story short, I was hoping for external influences to suddenly change my life for the better. And you know what happened? you can guess :D
!!! Nothing changed at all because the external factors didn’t come to play as I had hoped they would.

This Time I Start Thinking...
Obviously, I did not win the lottery, which is not a tragedy for me, but it taught me a valuable lesson in life: relying on external factors to change your life for the better means to hand over the responsibility for your life to a parts.

How To Trust in Yourself ??????

1. Take responsibility for your life ...

How does one develop trust in oneself, if one had always managed to pass the blame for one’s mistakes to external circumstances? I mean, would you trust in yourself, if you had always found reasons outside yourself to blame for your mistakes? I guess not. The first step to developing faith in oneself has nothing to do with becoming overly confident, but with taking responsibility for one’s mistakes and failures. Playing the blame game makes you become the victim that is helpless and cannot change its fate. In short, you will always depend on others in some way or the other, when playing the “blaming victim”. But in reality, you’re only as long in a helpless situation for as long as you choose to play the blame game. But once you set yourself free from passing the blame to others you have taken the necessary responsibility for your life, which is the foundation for having trust in oneself.

2 Forgive yourself...

Acknowledging one’s responsibility for the mistakes and failures in life should come hand in hand with the willingness to forgive yourself for these. Instead of blaming yourself for the mistakes you committed in the past, try to discover the lessons these failures/mistakes might have taught you. Thereby, you will understand the higher purpose underlying each and every one of your failures. It furthermore will help you to avoid making similar mistakes again.

3 Come to terms with your past...

The story of the past is open to dispute, but there is one fact about it that no one can deny: the past cannot be changed. Wrong actions cannot be revoked, hurtful words cannot be withdrawn and the events you wish would never have happened cannot be changed. Just as much as anyone else I wish I never committed the biggest mistakes in my life, but I do know that all of them have become an inevitable part of my life, whether I accept it or not.

With this in mind, it becomes even clearer that worrying about what happened in the past and blaming it for your present situation will lead you next to nowhere. All it does is create just more pain and insecurities when facing a similar situation in the present. In order to regain the faith in yourself, come to terms with the past, accept that what’s been done is done without any hope of changing it. The only thing you can influence is the present; you can now start building a brighter future or remaining in remorse about the past for the rest of your life.
My advice For You "Keep in mind" ... the actions of today create the future you will be living in. If you built the future based on the foundation of trust in yourself, there’s nothing to lose for you!

4 Follow your heart/intuition...

Having trust in oneself does not only imply that you have faith in your abilities and skills, but also that you are courageous enough to follow your intuition, whenever this inner guidance and wisdom gives you advice. It takes a lot of courage to follow where the heart leads, especially when the ego/rational mind suggests you not do, but it also takes a lot of faith in oneself to do so. Therefore, listening to your intuition will strengthen the trust you have in yourself, allowing you to further rely on your own strengths and abilities.

5 Trusting yourself vs. seeking advice from others...

A tell-tale sign of a person that – to put it politely – doesn’t trust in itself much, is the excessive use of another person’s input, when it comes to decision-making. And I believe we all have met people in our lives – may they be classmates, fellow students or colleagues – who would always ask each individual in the social circle about their opinion, before making a decision on their own. Interestingly enough, whenever I experienced this “phenomena”, no life-changing decisions needed to be met, but the most trivial decisions of everyday life one can think of, like the choice of whether to go to the canteen for lunch or to order a pizza. But please don’t get me wrong here, considering the input and guidance of others in a wise way, especially when it comes to life-changing decisions, can never be a bad thing, but meeting a decision based on the opinion of others can be – especially when lacking trust in yourself.

On the other hand, seeking advice from externals on a daily basis, no matter how insignificant the decision that needs to be met, can have a devastating effect on the faith you have in yourself. This is the reason I named it “the balancing act of seeking advice” as you need to find the right balance in between finalizing a decision solely by trusting into your own abilities and the situation you need to seek guidance from others. As a rule of thumb, feel into yourself and seek for your inner guidance/knowing and you will know what the best is for you. And should you still be in doubt about an important decision that needs to be met, consult others and consider their input.

6 Become the master of your life...
If you are a regular reader of this website, you’ll know that I’m not a big fan of all the “guru-ism” out there, id est the continuous search for individuals that the masses can look up to, which is (by the way) just another form of externalization. This article is all about self-empowerment and the development of trust in oneself, so it’s important to understand the dangers that “guru worship” can have on the faith a person has in itself.

I rather prefer to empower my readers, instead of turning them into my followers. With having this in mind, I would like to encourage you to become the master of your life in order to increase the faith you have in yourself. Be your own guru, instead of looking up to others! You are the one and only who has all the knowledge about every aspect of your being, ranging from your character to the experiences you’ve made and the difficulties you’re facing in life. No one else does have this sort of knowledge, except you! When it comes to your life, you’re the only authority and – so to say – the only master that will always accompany you, no matter where your path takes you!

Hope you enjoy ... and my advices become useful for you !!!