Life can be brutal

Life is brutal and any form will grow through our dead bodies to survive.

Animals are eaten alive by other animals every day—the jungle is eat or be eaten.

I felt the coldness return.

I realized life is ruthless.

So, I approached this crazy thing we call being human with a strategy when it comes to things like self-love.

Formula:

Build the skill of not judging your thoughts.
Salvage the value from your past and discard anything else you don’t need.
You must love to feel love.
Love your family and friends.
Love your passion in life.
Love serving others who are in need.
Become the best version of yourself so you can give the best version of yourself.
The more valuable you become, the more value you can give to others.
It’s simply ruthless math.

Don’t try to love yourself—work on yourself anyway, not for you, for the ones you love.

Lose your soul, only then will you be able to find it.

Go cold, come back a hardened value-abundant machine.

Maybe, after all the dust settles, what will remain is a passionate chiseled version of yourself, bringing joy through personal mastery. None of this takes “self-love” but at the end of the day you will be so loved, regardless of how you personally feel, you’ll show up.

Eventually, as what I have explained is what I went through, you will find an undying love for yourself for your ability to bring so much value.

It’s like a farmer who loves his tractor because it helps him feed his family. You become a machine that provides help for all those you can reach, and one day, you will love this machine.