This Is Really Why People ghost

in lifestyle •  3 years ago 

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I was having dinner with a male friend on Saturday night when I informed him I had decided to cease seeing a guy I'd known for a few months. I said, "Hey, thanks, but I don't believe I can," when the man in question requested me to meet him earlier this week. I also informed him that I needed to get my STD tests done this month (yeah, I was very honest) and that I didn't think it was a good idea to see him anytime soon.

When my friend heard my remark, he was taken aback. WHAT?! he exclaimed. Why did you tell him everything? You should not have responded at all. And it was this type of response that prompted me to write the entire post. My friend is not a horrible guy at all; in fact, he is a good friend of mine whom I adore; nonetheless, he is the type of man who genuinely ghosts people; he does not believe it is inappropriate to simply vanish without explanation or closure with a lady he has only met a few times. I, on the other hand, believe I should be able to say no at the very least so that the man in question can move on to someone else.

I'm well aware that there are countless postings on this subject, about why individuals ghost, and there are likewise countless reasons why this occurs.
Nonetheless, the quick answer is that they actually don't care for the most part.

It's not that complicated, as the book I recommend to everyone explains; he's just not that interested in you. He received your message and chose not to respond.
I know it's annoying to get ghosted, but I've learnt not to take it personally. After all, your worth isn't determined by how interested someone else is in you.

To sum up,
That's all there is to it. When someone abandons us, it's because they don't give a damn. I don't believe this makes them "bad people," but rather that they aren't the ideal fit for us, because the right one always chooses you.

If you do get ghosted, keep this in mind and try not to take it personally. Simply send them your best wishes and move on.

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I wonder why good content posts don't get attention??
Why is this post being "ghosted"??😃😃