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Manolo is a self-centered, individualistic person, with a little distorted values (even when his parents gave him a good education), enormously sarcastic (to the point of scratching on the insulting), intelligent but careless in his obligations and with the tendency to lack the slightest remorse of conscience.
During the university years, "Manolo" was closer to the one that today is my husband than to me, but because of the closeness between them I had to share some events with him. Twenty years later we had to coincide in the same city, for us the only one known in the new city was "Manolo", for him we were part of one of the few friends he had left.
"Manolo" had been divorced a couple of years ago, so his life was more dysfunctional than ever, but nevertheless our arrival in this city had given him the option of starting a business together as independent professionals, even months after Our arrival a new love came to his life and I imagine that life had begun to smile again.
I remember that in a lunch that we shared together he gave us the good news that his partner was pregnant and the plans to start a new home together with the daughter he had and the baby that was coming were filling his life.
For things in life (and see how life sometimes surprises us) when the pregnancy was almost completed his partner became worse and began unexpectedly and colossally quickly everything began to worsen, a premature baby was born, a mother She went to intensive care and after almost a month she died. I must say that during that time the ties between us and Manolo became thicker, many errands, medications, visits, logistics, necessary preparations for the improvement of your partner were made with the greatest of tastes (it was the least we could do as human beings believers in God) and to the frustration of all did not bear fruit, everything ended in the loss of a human being, in the loss of many personal projects for Manolo.
With the intention of supporting him, we decided to start a business as independent professionals, "we wanted to accompany him and support him because life had hit him hard". To my unpleasant surprise nothing of the experience had marked Manolo, soon the arrogance, egocentricity, sarcasm of this person returned and I saw how the gratitude that was born from all the people who supported him, who extended a hand, was not born. who accompanied him in his most difficult moments. The desire to be above us and many others affected my relationship with Manolo and my friendship with him ended, I preferred to get away from a person who did not understand a life lesson of that caliber, I preferred not to be present when life and its boomerang return what he was releasing to the universe.
One afternoon I was watching a movie called "The Wizard of Lies" in which Robert De Niro performed and to my surprise the ending was a revelation, I had understood that Manolo's personality is categorized in a list of characteristics that define the APD (Antisocial Personality Disorder).
Antisocial Personality Disorder (APD), sometimes called Sociopathy, is a psychiatric condition. People who suffer from it can not adapt to social norms, such as laws and individual rights. Among the most common characteristics of the APD are the absence of empathy and remorse, also a distorted view of self-esteem, a constant search for new sensations (which can reach unusual extremes), the dehumanization of the victim or lack of concern for the consequences. Self-centeredness, megalomania, lack of responsibility, extroversion, excess of hedonism, high levels of impulsiveness, or the motivation to experience feelings of control and power are also very common. Definition found in Wikipedia
Now everything was like pieces of a puzzle, perhaps Manolo suffers a disorder that has not been diagnosed and that if it is not well channeled it can lead him to happen events that will leave him alone. Maybe the APD was a trigger for his divorce, maybe that's why he did not have many friends when we arrived in this city, maybe that's why he does not feel the slightest gratitude to those of us who behave so well with him.
And to conclude I can say that if within your friends is a person with these characteristics, most likely suffer from some kind of disorder that makes him look like a bad person, I hope life gives me the opportunity (with the biggest of humility) to make reference to this type of pathologies although I am aware that the first reaction of many is "denial"
