Accept yourself for who you are
To change your behavior, the first thing you need to do is work on your self-image. In order for you to have a positive effect on others, you must first think positively of yourself . Focus on your good qualities, the things you like about yourself. Remind yourself that nobody is perfect and accept your weaknesses too. Meditation and affirmations can help you love yourself. Instead of being guided by negative sentences, try self-affirming statements like “I accept myself for who I am”, “I am valuable”, or “I deserve to be treated well”.
Do not become dependent on others
In the next step, try to put less emphasis on what others think of you. Don't be afraid that other people might have bad opinions of you. If you always avoid someone thinking badly of you, you will never come into contact with other people. You can never please everyone, so don't even try. It is enough if you have a few people around you who like and accept you. But don't expect too much from those around you either. They are also imperfect and one person can never satisfy all of your needs. Don't wait for them to come to you, take the first step yourself, even if there is a risk of being rejected.
Make contact with your fellow human beings
Try to get in touch with people around you. There are so many ways you can meet other people. Start a hobby where you will meet new people. How about a sports club, a course at a community college or a choir? Volunteering also brings you together with other people. If that's too daring, you can first try an everyday conversation with your neighbor or the saleswoman in the supermarket.
Take an interest in the life of others
You have a lot to give to others. Whether it's just a smile , an open ear or your time, signal to your fellow human beings that you are interested in them. This will make others feel good and they will respond more positively to you. Listen carefully and ask questions if necessary. Take part in the lives of others and tell something about yourself too. You will feel more belonging right away.
Be active
Give your life something that gives it meaning. Whether it's a job that means a lot to you, a hobby, volunteer work or a certain routine, these things will make you appreciate and feel less lonely. They also help you use your time wisely. You get to know other people who share your interest. This gives you a common connection.
Take care of your well-being
However, don't just focus on others, take care of yourself as well. Be a good friend to yourself . Don't be afraid to spend time alone with yourself, but make this time as nice as possible. Bring more joy into your life . Treat yourself to something and do activities that you enjoy. Take long walks, spend a lot of time in nature or furnish your apartment according to your taste. This will make you feel more comfortable with yourself. In return, you should banish all reasons for your loneliness from your life. If you feel that your love relationship is getting lost in everyday life, you should speak to your partner about it and solve the problem.