Love is the most sublime feeling in man ... It is affected by many parameters while ensuring the continuity of human species. That's why we're not in love with everyone. So who do we fall in love with? Why is there love? Do you have a life of love? Do you have love at first sight? We asked Oytun Erbaş, the man who lived without exception, his neurobiology of transcendence, which is as great as himself. While doing his scientific explanation, Erbaş also sheds light on the forms of misconceptions established today and even gives an interesting formula of living more beautiful and more intense.
Ler Sexuality ana, which is one of the common impulses between animals, unites with the things that are specific to people and brings out ürt love Hayvan. Thus, when there is passion and libido in love, at the same time to enjoy his dream, to spend time with him, bringing a child into the world in a safe environment, taking flowers on Valentine's Day to work to make him happy to be
Why is there love?
Love exists for the continuity of the generation. It's best to focus on a person. Because if you try to mate with everyone, you can't concentrate. But focusing on one person guarantees work. It is also an investment for two people. Because the human cub is not like the animal; At least 6 years want maintenance. So two people choose mutual partner and says ‘We look at this child O. For him, love is actually a focus on a person. And why is that? To look after the child and to create a safe environment… Because living in two people is safer than living one. Singing is a very anxious situation. But living together is a reward for a man, or rather a hedoni. The primitive brain loves social cohesion, that is, it likes to stand together, loves a single wife, and even loves the opposite sex. Because there is a reproductive motive. It is a very enjoyable thing for a human to have a human being. For him, in the early days of love, the bigger the hedoniler, the larger the pleasures. But then, tolerance develops and love becomes love.
When is this happening? … 3 years of love yıl is called ‘
Life over 18 or 24 months insan Love is one of the most beautiful feelings of man. In fact, the cause of love is based on our primitive brain, the limbic system. This system is a system under our brains. He determines our tastes, the main motives are here; eating, drinking, aggression and sexuality. These are the things the animal brain wants. But there is one more characteristic of man; man has a cortex. How does cortex develop? Train. It starts to form connections between the animal brain, the limbic system and the cortex. Thus, man does not only enjoy sexuality; it also enjoys culture, art, science, philosophy. So at this point, our pleasure circuits are different from the animals. They have eating, drinking, sexuality, but we also have cortex
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For example, we are dealing with science and we are very happy when we are rewarded. We want people to approve us, to cherish us, to listen to our words, to count us. So our case is cortex. Our cortex grows with education and so our enjoyment increases. Because the connection between the cortex and the brain that is enjoying it is increasing. Therefore, education, language learning, dealing with the philosophy of your pleasure to enjoy the connection with the limbic system and enjoy more enjoy. But the uneducated man is only enjoying three things; beat someone, eat food and sexuality. So, as the training increases, the cortex is developing and love is increasing. As the cortex evolves not only sexuality, it is also a pleasure to think about, to imagine, to eat with it, to spend time with it. Because your connection is so advanced that even the pleasure of thinking about it is enough to warn the brain.
So what happens if you think of him a lot?
Sometimes the thinking is developing so much that the thinking-pleasure mechanism is constantly working. Then you're obsessed. This is also called adı KARA SEVDA ’, and its name in medical literature is obsession. Love turns into obsession like that. This is an addiction and then it becomes a disease. If the person doesn't go to work, doesn't even meet friends, always check his cell phone, when he expects to call, so thinking about him is ruining his social life, then it means he has got sick and needs to get rid of it.
So how does love begin? Who would fall in love with?
He falls in love with a man nearby. Why is that? Because the more one sees a person, the more he trusts and then loves it. We are in love with people we see, so we fall in love.
DO YOU HAVE THE SHAPE FORMULA?
As they talk to her, the confidence builds up and oxytocin increases the hormone. This hormone ends your fears. When the fear ends, friendship begins. In fact, friendship begins before love. As this bond grows, oxytocin transforms it into love. So the formula of love is; trust, oxytocin and a pinch of obsession. Oxytocin has very nice feelings, while comforting the person while increasing the stress hormones. Because the fear of losing people begins; If you go, you're starting to say. So trust and distrust are happening at the same time. There is stress in both love and stress soothing. It turns out like this in itself. The same yin yang as ve Here it is something that is actually stressful to the passionate love and lasts for 24 months. You can't do it all the time. Then you're doing oxytocin peaks more sexually and you're more connected.