You just have to find someone that does not abuse of your vulnerability! :)
Bodies need to get naked to have sex, no wall in the middle, as the soul need to be naked to embrace the other.
Just take your time to determine if the other may abuse you, see how he is with others, what he did to others, check him closely under pressure.

love is free thing, you cant completely connect if you don't became vulnerable, accepted and respected.
You have to trust you will be protected, not abused.

Suffering may occur, its ok, it belongs to the process of growing.