I know a couple whose marriage became the community's affair because the man was never able to satisfy his wife and this made her (being sexually active) seek the company of men outside. The story was on evrrybody's lips because the secret was revealed when the woman was caught stuck with another man after the husband had laced her vagina with thunderbolt.
Sex is one very important aspect of life and when you are in a relationship, you want to be able to enjoy that moment with that special someone(s).
8 SEX-HACKS.
I looked through some books, and also used my head to think and have come up with some Sex-hacks that will ensure a better sex life for anyone. 
These are just amateur hacks and I hope you find it useful.
1. LET LOVEMAKING BE AT THE TOP OF YOUR LIST
This is simple, do not make sex the last thing you do at the end of the day because when you do, you will practically be putting the sweetest aspects of your relationship to the bottom of the list.If you think good sex is important in your relationship, do well to give it the utmost priority it deserves. You cannot give in your best and receive thrash.
If you will not go to work when you are asleep or getting ready to go to bed, make sure to not plan sex for that moment when you are exhausted. good sex needs to be planned for that moment when you have all the heat flaming the right way.
2. SAY WHAT YOU WANT
This is usually very hard and many are just too shy to speak up and say what they want. If you aren't a psychic, then be sure your partner isn't one as well.
There is no need to wait years to get something you want when all need to get it is ask. That moment when you are with that special one needs to be treated and regarded as special so, try and be free with yourself and then your partner. talk about what you want and also listen to what your partner wants.
3. MAKE A DATE FOR LOVE
Intimacy is important and having a time for it always makes it better. You should make a date and do well to also spice up the period by first including outings and dinner dates etc. There is that special feeling you get when you are excited because you are looking forward to being with that special person. Exciting lovemaking doesn't happen by accident, you make it happen.
4. SWITCH ROLES
Between you and partner, make sure you switch roles. Doing the role switching stuff will go a long way to make things interesting. Turning the table guarantees a stimulating change of scene as both partners have the ability to become either passive or active.
5. READ AND SHARE INTELLIGENT MOMENT TOGETHER ON BED
Being in a relationship is hard already and getting to go through it coupled with the various pressure we are used to in our daily lives make sit really difficult to keep up. Make sure to take time out to read some sex related books and talk about your intimate fantasies. Doing this will help loosen the tension before sex and then it make sit very enjoyable.
We are humans for God's sake and must threat ourselves as such by making the best of these intimate moments.
6. BE SPONTANEOUS; MAKE LOVE IN THE KITCHEN
I like spontaneity because it is being spontaneous, meaning, you should be caught doing something really different and mostly crazy. Couples should learn to be spontaneous and handle their stuffs in more interesting ways than they are used to.
Be more flexible and engage more to be able to get into yourselves and become really free to be able to have that undiluted fun.
So, what about making love in the kitchen, or inside the car as you pull up in the driveway, or inside the bathroom, what about taking your partner to a resort just for the fun?
7. TAKE A WALK BEFORE...
You see, we shouldn't endure sex as a couple but rather enjoy it. You can take a walk on the cool side of life before that moment when you want to get intimate with your partner. Doing this makes the excitement heightened and really something to look forward to.
Life mustn't be rushed to be enjoyed I always say, get into the moment by being really free with yourself and your partner.
8. SEPARATE THE TV TIME FROM THE "ME" TIME
I do not see watching the TV as means of getting turned-up especially when it is not about you two, or the 10pm news. CNN, Aljazera and BBC can really spoil it for you when they come up with those disheartening news about wars in Syria, Sudan and even that kidnap story from Nigeria.
I think it is best to stay away from the TV during these planned moments of intimacy.
There you have it.., Ejemai's 8 amateur hacks to better sex.
What would you do if after having had the best evening with your partner, you get back home only to discover that the sex isn't all that?
Apart from being not perfect and enjoyable, you discover both of you are so tired and beat that you couldn't even get it up enough to be excited at the prospect of being with your partner?
Would you blame your partner for being responsible for the fails or would you try to be better going forward? Apply some hacks to ensure that you do not get caught in the worse intimate moment ever.
Relationships can be hard, and most of these hardness comes from the inability of the parties to really have enjoyable sex lives.
Find the time and make the moments count, life is beautiful.
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Make love in the kitchen? hahahahah, bros easy, i think it should be make love anywhere convient, even garden and bush thungs is allowed, hehehehe, icecreams too are not bad ideas they can do wonders hahaah, I was not here ooo!
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That's the spontaneous part of it. People do make love in places you won't believe. But that will be a topic for another day :)
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I think we are saying thesame thing, i just feel he should have just given us a general idea. Dont mind me just being sarcastic. Lol
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Hmm! Interestine topic @ejemai.
I like this line.
It is also important not to expect too much every time because there are many factors that can negatively affect sex in marriage.
Understanding your partner and knowing what best excites him/her makes a lot of difference to making it memorable.
Religious inclination to sex also affects sexual relationship because some have a mindset how it should be thereby missing out in the beauty of sexual relations. If God did not want man to enjoy sex he would not have created it. But it has to be done within the circle of marriage where it is supposed to be enjoyed better.
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No. 6 is my favorite.
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wow very thinking & informative leasonable writing... keep it up @ejemai sir.
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Really? Thunderbolt?? It's one hell of a hilarious story, lmao..... I once dated someone who taught morning sex would ruin his day, lol.. People don't know how important sex is in a relationship. Thanks for sharing @ejemai
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Come and date me ooo i know how important it is ooo, i did not say anything ooo😂
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Whattttttt?????
That is weird! I thought all men are in to morning sex as it eases tension.lol
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Lol.. He was forming holier than thou😀. Later found out he was what you would call 'a dog'. Story for another day and a funny one at that😂😂
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please send me the link i would love to read. Thank God you ran.
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😂....na wa ooo
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Wow nice post bro.. Experience they say is the best teacher... Thanks brother ly
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If I may add, I would say don't be shy in bed and be flexible. Flexibility is the main issue atleast for me. Some of us are very adventurous, having g that special person to try different styles and other fetish really go a long way in reaching orgasm.
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I love this....
But about number 7...
Taking a walk before....
Wouldn't that drain the energy and just totally distract your mind from the idea of getting intimate?
Or when you say taking a walk... Do you mean it figuratively? As in, foreplay?
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Smiles, interesting!
Thanks for the tips boss
I see relationships become sweeter with these useful tips.
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Nice and educating
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Voice of experience! The goal of sex is not just your orgasm but ecstasy for both partners. Love making is not a movie set where everyone concentrates on his/her script. You do need to listen to her body that is the most important thing. i really enjoy this epistle
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You've done justice to this @ejemai.
One thing people fail to realise is that sex is more than the Intercourse itself. It begins with the mind, a hug, a peck early in the morning etc. No matter the amount of intercourse, if the woman's mind isn't satisfied with the man, she will still complain.
Thanks for this @ejemai.
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Wow. . . You bore my mind out in this post @ejemai.
Some see sex as one of those things you don't talk about. At the heart of good sex with the one you love is communication, before (to know your partner's fantasies) during (to be sure you're making love indeed) and after (to know how you can fare better to give your partner the best fun ever).
Many marital relationships will fare better if the points you highlighted are well taken into cognizance.
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Booking a space, we'll come back later to comment. I hope I'm in @ejemai's blog 😀
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You have said it all... Though I don't really know much about it, but you have enlighten me more on it...
I wish to know more, but now I don't have a girlfriend what I'm to do?
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Though not a sex freak..... But I have learnt a lot from this.
My future wife I hope you will be ready for me.
I just leant something very fascinating.... Lol
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@ejemai, I am really glad to read a man's point of view about sexual satisfaction. Please permit me to add a little from a woman's point of view. Sexual satisfaction or better sex as you've aptly called it, starts from the mind for the woman. She isn't necessarily turned on by what she sees nor even what she experiences but by what she hears and feels!
Knowing a woman's love languages is the key to getting this right. I would recommend Gary Chapman's "The 5 love languages". He categorized love languages into 1)Words of affirmation 2)Quality time 3) Receiving gifts 4)Acts of service and 5)Physical Touch.
So let's take an example of a woman whose love languages are mainly Quality time and Acts of Service. Her husband has been busy at work all day and comes back home at 7.30pm and takes her out for dinner in his attempt to make her happy and to ensure that the night's sexual encounter would be a memorable one. When they get back home and the love making feels off and lackluster, he begins to wonder what's wrong with her.
She, on the other hand, has been complaining to him of the faulty tap in the kitchen and the faulty bulb in the kids' room. Remember her love languages are quality time and acts of service. Going out to a restaurant where there's no real privacy would not be the ginger she needs. All she needs is quality time with her husband and acts of service from him to make her feel like she matters much to him. The man would definitely get better fulfillment sexually that night if he got home and fixed the tap and bulb or got someone to fix them (an act of service), then proceeded to sit with her and gist about her day and his day too (quality time).
The same applies both ways actually. Knowing your spouse's love language is a huge game changer in having a thoroughly satisfying sex life. A happy partner will always be a willing partner and you can have endless adventures if both parties are communicating in perfect sync via their different love languages.
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I am taking notes o. This is valuable information!!!!!
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This is a very nice write up and couldnt agree less with you. It juay takes a lot of concentration when you have a lot going on your mind. But i think with conscious effort, it is possible.
I subscribe to kitchen, dining, infact everywhere, if possible when your neighbours are not around, do it outside or inside your car.
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All these point are great for both newly weds and ancient couples. Sexual compatibility is also an issue that should be discussed. Being married for a while, one might start to realise that the spark and spontaneity may be dessipating probably because everything is now on a routine and also due to the fact that there is always so much to do and 24hrs a day is not just enough. You should really create a post about some challenges married couples face when one party feels trapped and couldn't even communicate properly with his/her partner.
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This was good...took me to the end.. I can't believe I read this to the end in a radiology class. Upvoted and resteemed..
My best part is say what you want best line...think i will try it
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this is a nice topic bro @ejemai. i learn something about this article. hope that i can apply this in real life. have fun and more power bro!
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Lool ..... Nicely written
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