Challenging Love to Be Unconditional - PART 71

IS IT ME?

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I would way rather have blamed Quinn than feel this was me.  I knew I could justify why his actions were the problem and why “what he did to me” was such a horrible thing.   

We talked for hours after I raged and collapsed into my own pity puddle.  I knew that what Quinn shared with me was obviously a freer, more empowered, enlightened, other worldly perspective.  Up until this point I had been holding on to making him the bad guy and responsible for my happiness, which didn’t feel good, but at least I had someone else to blame for this mess!

I took a parade of deep breaths as some of the things I had gleaned through my years with Quinn came flooding back to me:

1. Everything that happens in my life is all about me.  In the grand scheme of things it matters not what others do.  I knew I was at least half of the equation in this situation, and if I wasn’t in the mix, it wouldn’t be happening at all! If I didn’t take responsibility for simply being in it myself, I would remain a victim, which I definitely didn’t want to be--now or ever again!  I would have little to say in my life and instead would have to attempt to make Quinn be who I wanted him to be so I could feel better about myself.  Ha!  Just try that with a free man!
   
2. What we fear we draw near!  I had been afraid for months that he may find someone else. This was me, my fear, my own vibration, what I was bringing to the table.  I manifested a potent situation so I could finally address this inner turmoil within myself.
   
3. Clear, real, potent communication takes two people being open for an exchange.   I had been too afraid to hear anything that wasn’t what I wanted to hear.  I even met his attempts to tell me with a brick wall made of NOs!  This inability to listen was me, my own fear again!

OMG it is me it is me it is me!  I am in this situation.  I AM!  I AM responsible.  Holy fuck!  Does it even matter what he did or didn’t do?  If I’m responsible for my own experience, then I have to know that I created this situation, and am having the opportunity to see myself through it all.  YUCK!  OH GOD!  NO!  Why have I done this to myself?  Why was I so afraid that I manifested a situation to face my greatest fears!  Blahhhhhhhh…..DAMN!

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