From my heart I write.
Dear Man ,
You that is much older than the wife.
Marriage is a partnership that offers both partners equal treatment and platform. The fact that you're old enough to be her father does not make you her god. You're her husband and nothing more. Did you not know that she's still very childish when you were looking for a fresh blood to marry? 
If your aim of marrying a young person is to gain respect, reverence and worship that strokes your ego, then get a maid.
She has the right to get angry like you. If she does not raise her hand to hit you when she flares up, then there's no reason why you'd hit her because she annoyed you. Anger and violence is not gender specific. Stop claiming violent rights. There's nothing like elder husband or younger wife. Your ages melt away in the heat of sexual passion and the love that burns in your hearts. 
Have a wonderful day.