Do I tell my partner what I like sexually?
Sometimes you hope that a new partner knows what to do sexually ... then you end up disappointed when things just don't feel so good. Fortunately, there is a fairly simple way to turn good sex into a great experience: communication.
We are all different, so no matter how experienced your partner is, they may have no idea what excites you. You have to let your partner know what you like and what feels good. And it's good to keep the lines of communication open even if you've been together for a while, because what feels good or what you're interested in can change over time.
Some people find out what they like by having sex with someone, and others learn about their bodies by masturbating. Learning to orgasm on your own can make it easier to have one with someone else.
Where do you want to be touched? How much pressure feels good? How fast or slow? You can show your partner what you like by masturbating in front of him or guiding his hand, mouth or other part of the body. Or you can tell them what feels good (or what doesn't).
Talking about sex can be a little scary or uncomfortable, but it can also be very exciting. And your partner may be very appreciative of bringing it up. If you are nervous, you can always start by asking them what feels good or what kinds of sexual activities interest you. Then you can talk about what makes you feel good. It is also a good opportunity to let them know what your limits are and what types of sex you are NOT interested in.