Sex is probably the simplest thing, that has ever been made complicated.
If we look into nature, we can that see sex is everywhere.
It is the basis for life.
However, for most humans it has become a fruitful ground for neurosis.
How did that happen? Why is sex such a difficult topic for most people, and how can we heal it?
To me personally, the pursuit of a fulfilling relationship to women has probably been the most powerful fuel to my journey of self-healing and understanding.
What I found is...
What I believed to be the end goal of a fulfilled sexual life, was actually just another part of my cultural conditioning.
It began when I was a teenager. Full of insecurities and a lack of love received from the humans closest to me. Grown into in a society, where as a man your worth will partially be defined through the number of women you had sex with.
The latter creates enormous stress in most men, even at that young of an age.
What I actually was looking for, was love. Someone with whom I could explore safely, and find a lap to rest my tired head on.
Years later I have accepted the fact, that most humans have been hurt so deeply themselves, that is very hard to live a relationship with these qualities present.
I'm not even going to get into the whole trickery and manipulation, that has been put forth by religion and media, which probably has been the main cause, that turned sex into such a problematic topic.
It is easy to bring all your old stories, fears and traumas to the person we want to be intimate with, and just dump it on to them.
We forget, that we project most of the qualities we see in our partner. And often their reaction is simply a mirror to our own emotional state.
When we live in our thoughts and dreams, how we want our perfect partner to be, it is easy to miss who they really are.
We don't acknowledge their true nature, and the emotions that are going on in them, as we are often blinded by our own troubled mind.
Unless we can actually learn, what it means to relate to each other from an authentic and conscious place, it is going to be hard, to get the fulfillment we've been looking for.
A fulfilled sexual life can happen when we become very clear on who we truly are, and accept that person with all its kinks and shortcomings.
Only then we can understand that we don't need our partner to make us complete, and this is where true relating begins.
very nice writeup.
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Thanks for reading :)
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This is a solid article, and I think this contemplation needs to be brought out into the open. I'm going to resteem it 😜
Man and woman have been turned against each other, in an attempt to find their completion in each other. We have the attitude of 'using' another, and not sharing on a deep sacred level. When sexual energy is drained and abused, and we lose our innate abilities - spiraling down into the lower realms.
It's the burden of conscious individuals to go out and connect in respectful ways, and to create a culture that heals. And I think that can only happen if we release our judgements, it's a heavy burden to bear and this generation is doing a lot of grunt work in the psychic realms to clear these emotion and thought constructs.
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I completely agree with what you state here. So true about the grunt work. Someone has to start to clear the collective trauma. Its not always easy. I feel once youve come to a certain point, where you have healed most of your biggest neurosis and wounds, and changed your most insane believes, you just start to get more receptive to the shadow parts of other people. And then you can take up that energy and transform it for them. So its kind of like a field of clarity that spreads outwards. At least thats my current understanding of it.
And thanks for the resteem @phillyc its much appreciated.
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Sounds pretty accurate! 🌏
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Masterfully-stated. Powerful.
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Thanks @rok-sivante, I truly appreciate it 🙏
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What a burden. And there's woman, burdened by shame by the men she's slept with.
Beautiful art.... love love love. Yay for unburdening of conditioning and laps to lay in..
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Yes the system we are taught is crazy. The norms we grow up with around sexuality are completely illogical and only serve to keep us trapped in guilt, shame and confusion.
Unburden and shine!
Thanks, appreciate your comment! :)
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I'm going to think about what you've written and the replies you received. I LOVE the image you posted with your words. It's beautiful.
I voted for your post and replies because my mind was stimulated. I'm only a few days as a steemonian, I've transferred some crypto to give, I just don't know how the mechanics of giving here work yet. I'll learn soon I'm sure.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and knowledge.
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Im glad you could get something out of my post, and thanks for resteeming!
When you vote or resteem your already are giving. No need for donations here. ;)
I wish you a good entry into this community!
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I hope some LGBT folks see this post and add their perpespectives too.
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