Learning to Love Yourself in 7 Different Ways

A mother loves her newborn child without reserve, and the "romantic love," in the early stages of infatuation, can be seen as perfect. Unfortunately, most people doubt love without reservation, to forgive, love fully, and to accept, in our everyday lives. Upon taking a look in the mirror, we see a lot of mistakes and do not forget the injuries from the past and the failures of love to ourselves, without a limit the love.

To broaden the experience regarding love that you feel at this moment you need to heighten your degree of spirituality. There is a way to love unconditionally, as with any spiritual longing, and on this journey, there is, in fact, a beginning, a middle and an end. Let me give you a bit of insight as for how the unfolding of your path is possible. 

The beginning: you see, the wanting and needing love, usually more than what you get. You feel unsafe, overly friendly, but your ego is there to stimulate (or not). You will love others, for the most part, contingent on how much you love them or to appeal to your sense of romance, sexuality, and compatibility. Relationships require an ongoing compromise between what you desire and what your significant other wants. The words, which apply to this love, include the following: passion, attachment, dependency, merger, of romance, of mutual need, love, and compatibility.

Middle: if you aspire to a kind of higher love the ego and the level of neediness will have subsided. You carry the belief that love can be a healing force connecting us all. You can love someone without the need for them to do for you in return.  This love is to be less personal and without the need for attachment. Your consciousness is evolving, and you will feel less insecure. The love has reached a greater maturity and is now calmer. Relationships require mutual respect as there is less room for conflict if personalities don't oppose one another. Words which would be most appropriate for this love include the following: idealistic, calm, generous, giving, compassion, forgiveness, and acceptance.

End: When all limitations are left behind, the love is unconditional. You will feel that it arises from a spiritual source inside yourself. It is more than a feeling; you have drawn, in one aspect of the universal. You no longer must have a personal stake in the people you love. Compassion is conceivable now and a sense of belonging to the human family. Relationships involve no struggle, or by supporting the needs and desires. Love is self-sufficient, the state of realization. The words which apply to this love include the following: the divine, the sublime, the Holy, bright, ecstatic, and without limit.

As you can see, the term "unconditionally" is a process that reaches a lofty goal, simultaneously there is a flicker of happiness and joy along the way. As with all genuine spiritual aspirations, unconditional love is natural. It can be seen in the innocence of a baby or a sunset viewing that makes for a breathtaking moment.  The difficulty lies in the ability to keep these moments on a permanent basis. But at every step along the path is, in fact, worth it, as any aspect of healing is always valid.

The search at the beginning, in the middle and at the end of the path, you don't need to judge where you belong. We all have at least a couple of instances where we were perfectly loved and completely lovable. For the majority of people in this time, back to childhood or even a first love. How can one get to such a place again not in time but in the space that we live?  The spiritual traditions of the world, have given a variety of paths to travel, but here I will provide a few common elements without religious overlay.

Step 1: get in touch with your inner self

This means being more aware of yourself and raising awareness of your self-care. Through meditation, self-reflection or contemplation, and the experience of tranquility, at least a few minutes every day, may you come in contact with your inner world. You will learn to appreciate and enjoy.

Step 2: be Honest to your inner obstacles and resistance

Most people don't like it, coming to terms with their weaknesses and shortcomings to over judge themselves. But you are a human and you will see that your insecurity and fear, the feelings of the past that can be healed. In fact, you want to be freed, if you give yourself a chance. The first step of healing is to look inside, and let the process of liberation begin. The cure can be several ways, therapy and the support of the working groups on energy, massage, mind-body programs and the possibility of approaches to Eastern medicine.

Step 3: dealing with old injuries

You can also call this advanced healing. As old residues are freed of negative emotions, you will find that you get stuck with the anger, the pain and the scars that need to be addressed. Under the scar, these injuries feel very fresh. It needs the help of someone who understands the situation in these dark places — it is a friend, a mentor, a confidant, a priest or a therapist could. No one can do this work alone, I feel, but I'm not stressed, all the sense of vulnerability or fear. The job can be done without danger, without anxiety, and once you start, there is a tremendous sense of joy to life alone in the process. The way to success could come from the insight of someone who has traveled your path and made it through to the other side for the better.

Step 4: Forgiving your past

You shouldn't jump too quickly into forgiveness. It is too easy to do so, as you yourself that you forgive old injuries and abuse, when, in fact, what you want is to escape the pain. The absence of pain, performed by the cure, gives you the right foundation to a depth of a life of forgiveness. Self-acceptance is necessary, first of all, and the realization that you — and the entire world around you were you better as they can from their level of consciousness. This can be a big hurdle to jump if someone hurt you deeply, but you can't fully separate their misbehavior when they are in fact trapped within a reality of their own.

Step 5: Accepting where you are now

Also, this is a step that you should not jump too quickly. The present moment is not free of heartaches from the past. You need to accept those heartaches for what they are so that you can move on following the path you've chosen. A good place to start is to catch you, you yourself, if you have a bad memory and say, "I am no longer that person." For all matters moving forward from that moment the truth is you are not.

Step 6: relationships in which you are loved and appreciated

The path to unconditional love is not destined to be lonely. It is to walk with people, the testimony of the love that you see in yourself. You are likely to see, you to a certain point and realize that not everyone in your family and your friends will be per your wishes. Without rejecting them, you have the right to find people that understand your situation and accept the path you've chosen. You are more likely to appreciate you, which you are now, and what you want to be.

Step 7: The love in which you aspire to have takes practice

Over the years I've met a log of people, especially women, who were patiently waiting for the one to sweep them off their feet in the most magical way. But the only way to find "the one" is to become "the one" yourself. Remember that steel sharpens steel. People that are comfortable in their own skin give off a radiance that is different from people looking for something they don't need because they have yet to fully find themselves. 

If you spend time each day with one or two of these steps, you are going to down a path which will lead you to more love than you have in your life today. The steps will become second nature once you've come to feel the difference. You will have lifted a large weight off your shoulders and can walk the planet feeling lighter than ever. Since birth, you were meant to be loved and are deserving of unconditional love today and every day as you continue moving forward. The problem is we lose the level of love we had at birth and hoping for it to return we forget to love ourselves.  This path has been taken on for centuries and those who have taken it on successfully they no longer walk the path of the lonely as they are loved.

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