“A man who doesn’t include you when he talks about his future, either isn’t paying attention or he doesn’t see you as being a part of it.”

Sometimes, the best way to get an honest answer is not to ask the question directly but indirectly. If you have been with your man, for a reasonable amount of time, and you are unsure about what his intentions are regarding your future, ask him the following question: If you could paint a picture of how your life will be in five years, how would it look?
He should then begin to describe to you how, in his mind’s eye, he envisions his life to look in five years. You’ll notice that he’ll talk to you about all the things that are his primary focus; you would hope that you and the relationship would be one of them. Pay particularly close attention to how often he uses the word “me” or “I” instead of “us” or “we.”
By the end of the conversation, you should have a pretty good idea of where you stand. The beautiful thing about it is he most likely won’t even realize that he will have answered the big question that you never even asked.