Lost love is very painful and unlike a flesh wound it takes an awful amount of time to heal, in some cases it never heals we just learn to live without that particular significant other. Remember the popular phrase “it’s not you it’s me” during a break up? Well here are some signs that the problem was you.
#1. You were not the guy she fell in love with
At first you had a mean six pack and you knew how to romance her and now you’re just a fat slob that just lazes about on the sofa watching sports all day. Even when she has bought a new dress you don’t even see that because you have become an ignorant version of yourself.
Fix: Drag your fat ass to the gym, don’t be dead weight dead lift instead. Forget the TV for a moment and tell her she looks bad ass once in a while, she will feel wanted this way and oh keep it that way but never ever feel like it’s a job.
#2. You were a burden
Since pre-historic times man was a hunter gatherer and the woman was a nurturer. Things have always been this way even feminists want to be taken care of in some way regardless of modern times being upon us. You not looking for a job and always being dependent on your wife/girlfriend is pathetic and not manly, she hated it and now she broke up with you. Go and live with your momma because that’s what you are a big full bearded baby.
The fix: There are always jobs and if there aren’t any you can create entrepreneurial breakthroughs like this site. Wake up every morning, pray to God and go paint someone’s house or take out their trash for some money while saving up for a computer to create the next Steemit.
#3. You were too needy
The walls are closing in on her, the house is small and full of clutter and you are always in her space and forever in her face. We are in relationships as human beings but we are also individuals and some times we need our alone time. She tossed you for that guy who was not so needy and now she feels free of claustrophobia?
The fix: Go visit family over the weekend or get yourself a nice hobby that does not involve you being in the house, river rafting is also a great example. The goal is to make her miss you more because you are outdoors doing all these incredible crazy things, plus this gives you more things to talk about when you come back. Get a life dude.
#4. The sex was horrible
Being great in your relationship means being awesome in the sack too. If you average only 15 minutes if not just for a quickie then it’s either you are a loser in bed or you have serious sexual dysfunctions that require medical attention.
The fix: Stop stressing over your job or about the guy at work who keeps taking your parking spot, you are making love to her, focus on that. Eat healthy and exercise too that keeps the rhythm below the belt. Try new positions to show that you are serious about love making. Keep this mantra in your head “The first rounds for me and all the other rounds are for her” and don’t say it out loud in public unless you want to be accused of being a perv.
#5. She genuinely doesn’t want to be with you any-more.
This is probably the saddest fact out there. She told you she doesn’t love you any-more and she’s being seeing some mystery guy. It hurts like hell but try to be more composed, men don’t break. I’m lying men do break but break in silence away from the public and your buddies. Your break ups are breakthroughs to find better women that are meant for you. Keep your chin up and wipe the tears off your face because she is not crying where she is, she is having fun with the new bae.
The fix: Give yourself some time to grieve and move on. There is nothing wrong with you, put yourself out in the bachelor market and go fishing for some new deserving women. Oh and quick tip if she ever calls you up in the middle of the night saying she wants you back don’t take her back because she will have the courtesy of ruining your newly found love and breaking up with you for the second time for the same reasons.