Waiting is the hardest part

When your relationship ends, where once there was something familiar, now stands unknown. The gap, which creates a loss can make you fill this space with reasons why they had to end - try to make the unknown known. If your relationship is over and there is nothing to put in its place, you can find yourself in a very uncomfortable space - space that will seem so intolerable, so distorted, so empty, so daunting, so mutilated and so desperately. You have no choice but to try to understand what is happening. But the emptiness is so great that no response is not sufficient to fill it. No matter how you try to distract yourself, yet you feel something pulling you to the bottom. When the outcome is not under your control, waiting for answers waiting to feel better or wait to be together again, may seem like a matter of life or death. You expect a solution - a way of understanding or definition of what is happening between you, you can feel relief

This gap time passes so slowly that your mind can be entangled by questions about how to get through this and what will happen to you. Want to know urgently whether there is a way back to gather with his former mate. If not, how can you be sure that you will feel better and will love again? Unfortunately, as in many aspects of life, there is no way to predict what will happen in the future. Extremely painful to accept that your immediate outer world no answer - nothing to calm you down or to fill this terrible restless space inside you.

The waiting is the hardest part. Waiting to feel better and to get rid of the unbearable anxiety.

First things first - in fact, there are no answers to relieve the incredible discomfort you are experiencing. The only way to experience this is to realize that you can not rely on answers from the outside - you can not count on a side to ease the pain inside you. It is important to know that the period of incredible discomfort is an inevitable loss. Instead of looking for ways that do not exist, think about the pain and sorrow you must be there. Your feelings are your natural response to loss. They are part of your grieving process, which is the only way to fight pain.

You can not wait, there is no way to get answers from any source, to fill the void of the unknown. But consoled himself with the thought that this is completely normal human condition. Accept reality - whether you believe that separation is worth the enormous pain that accompanies it, such is the reality. Acceptance of the reality that you're hurt and you have to deal with the unknown, to feel better, is what will help you cope.

I can hear the questions. "How long will I wait?" , "How long will it take to overcome this?" . The answer is one - "as necessary" . Whatever you want, you can take only one step at a time. The way you can relieve your anxiety of the unknown, is to look inside yourself and find out whether you feel today better than yesterday. You know how you feel only yourself and compare it with your feelings at other times. You can be only in their own skin, experiencing only their own experience, their own pain and their own understanding of their relationship. If that does not work, you work on getting you think is happening. Because believing .

Nobody told better than Tom Petty: "The waiting is the hardest part." But the answers are waiting there outside yourself. You feel better in the face of the unknown is something that depends on you. Will reach there step by step.