Learning How to Love

How do I take the first step to deal with loneliness? By learning to love. But first
we must examine the paradox to love. When we are lonely, we feel like we are in an unbearable prison. By its very
nature of loneliness is just like the stomach ache – the attention centers only on
ourselves. So we try and fill this emptiness by finding others who will give us that
very love we need. People often try to do things for others to gain their love. They barter trade favors
with each other thinking that they are loving people. We know that our loneliness
can only be filled by the love of others and therefore we must feel loved by others. The paradox of love is this:
If we seek to fill the void of our own loneliness in seeking love from others, we
will inevitably find no consolation but only a deeper desolation. In other words, if
we seek the love that we need, we will never find it. When a person orients his life towards the satisfaction of his own needs, when
he goes out to seek the love which he needs, he is basically self-centered, no
matter how pitiful he is. As long as he focuses on himself, his ability to love will
always remain stunted. What is the solution then?
If a person seeks not to receive love, but rather to give it without strings attached, he will become lovable and he will most certainly be loved by others in the end. We must stop being concerned with ourselves and begin to be concerned with
others. Beginning with the end in mind – which focuses the results of the act of
love others without concerned with self-gain, is the first step to gaining love and
easing the pain of loneliness. Every single person on earth has some capacity to love.
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