“One Minute Manager” written by Ken Blanchard details a process that can help you manage your life and work. It works like a game that is easy to follow. Here, I am sharing my personal experience of this process.
A Combination Of Techniques
This special practice is a combination of two powerful techniques one used in business management and another for spiritual growth. It affects your mind, heart and action (basically body). By experiencing and mastering it, the situation you are in, will look different.
People whom you meet and who may hurt you, do not bother you anymore and the natural healing energies of life itself heals and brings you a peace of mind. When you are involved in business transactions, this assists you in doing a quick check up on whether your transaction is going well.
It has three steps: set a clear goal, praise and reprimand behavior.
Set the goal
The goal needs to relate to a specific behavior. for example, frequent lateness for appointments, tending to talk too much, missing the deadline.
If or when the goal is achieved:
Praise the behavior
-praise behavior authentically
– do it as soon as possible
– be specific
– tell the person what he did right and how you feel about it
– encourage the person (be honest) to continue
If the goal has not been or is not achieved:
"Reprimand”
the behavior-“reprimand” the behaviour (with honesty and love)
– do it soon
– be specific
– share with the person how you feel about the situation.
– encourage the person to strive on
– after communicating your honest feelings about her behavior, praise the individual
It’s All About Behavior
As you may see it’s all about behavior, but remember that goals begin with behavior, consequences maintain behavior.
If you are a manager in the company or as in your life, you would realize that most managers wait until their people (or friends) do something exactly right before they praise them. As a result, many people never get to become high performers ( or feel appreciated) because their managers concentrate on catching them doing things wrong — that is, anything that falls short of the final desired performance.
Bringing in a daily practice of Ho’oponopono takes you into deeper problem solving.
To do a “Hawaiian Problem Solving Process” — Ho’oponopono, you don’t have to know what the problem or error is. All you have to do is notice any problems you are experiencing physically, mentally, emotionally, whatever. Then your responsibility is to immediately begin to cleanse the situation, to say, “I thank you”, “I am sorry” “Please forgive me”, “I love you”.
An Enemy Of Well-being
What is blocking our well-being is nothing more than lack of love. Forgiveness opens the door to allow it back in. At heart we are all pure, with no programs or memories or even inspirations.
Dr. Hew Len in his book Zero Limits said that, “There is a way out of problems and disease for any individual willing to be 100 percent responsible for creating his or her life the way it is moment to moment. In the ancient Hawaiian healing process of ho’oponopono, the individual petitions Love to rectify errors within him. You say, ‘I am sorry. Please forgive me for whatever is going on inside of me that manifests as the problem.’ Love’s responsibility then is to transmute the errors within him that manifest as the problem.”
He added,“Ho’oponopono sees each problem not as an ordeal, but as an opportunity. Problems are just replayed memories of the past showing up to give us one more chance to see with the eyes of love and to act from inspiration.”
Putting It Together
The One Minute manager and Ho’oponopono concepts — the solution to the problem is your goal. For example: you have a staff who is not good in social skills — which is the problem. The goal is to find the positive aspects or intentions of his/her behaviour.
If your goal is achieved: you see or feel his good deeds and intentions, you praise him/her.
If it happens that person behaves in a nasty way, give a “reprimand”.
Remember your goal first — to find the positive aspects or intentions of his/her behaviour, because the goals begin behaviors, consequences maintain behaviors.
Before any meeting and after the meeting: repeat ho’oponopono mantra:
“I thank you”, “I am sorry” “please forgive me”, “I love you”.
As a pranic healer myself, before I face any situation I always say, silently, “Atma Namaste”, meaning “I salute the Divinity within you”. If you find this meaningful, you may also adopt this practice. It helps to calm the mind down and aligns you energetically.
Something else you can do is to to breath abdominally, with your stomach. This releases tensions from your shoulders, therefore from a defensive position you become more cooperative. You are friendly and approachable.
Quick review. Before the meeting or unpleasant situation:
1 step: 5 times repeat “I thank you”, “I am sorry” “please forgive me”, “I love you”.
2 step: Problematic situation convert into goal that includes behaviour.
If goal achieved: give praise
If goal not achieved: give reprimand (which includes praise)
3 step: 5 times repeat “I thank you”, “I am sorry” “please forgive me”, “I love you”.
In order to see how it works, test the waters with family members and friends first. Do share your feedback with me, I would be glad to hear about your experience.
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