Today I am taking a break from success blogging to write about a subject I am uniquely disqualified from speaking on, considering I am a Bachelor.
So I am leaning on a friend who I not only adore, but also love the way that she and her husband interact. They bring a fresh perspective on marrying your best friend. They are a joy to be around in any gathering and I have no doubt in my mind they are the same behind closed doors as they are in social gatherings.
I was very fortunate to have gone to school with Laura, and only as of this last year truly gotten to know them both. I can say without a shadow of a doubt that they are one of the coolest and most enjoyable couples I have ever known. I love Laura's take on Marriage fundamentals and hope all who read this married, dating, or single can truly take something away.
Laura's 5 Tips on having a Kick A$$ Marriage, Relationship.
"I have a lot of friends getting married in the near and far future, and I want to get stern with you all and offer my young bride advice after what I've learned this last year.
Remember when we were all kids, and we made imaginary bubbles so other people couldn't touch us? Marriage is just like that. Other opinions, remarks, behavior, whatever- keep it outside of your marriage bubble. It's not about anyone else. It's about you and your spouse everyday. That's it. Water your own yard every day. Don't worry about what your neighbors are doing in their bubble.
Be funny with each other. Not funny like "I forgot to put the bed sheets in the dryer and it's 11pm", but funny like learning all the dance moves that the enchanted broom does in the movie Fantasia with Mickey Mouse- and then busting out those dance moves while unloading the dishwasher.
I'm married and I'm 30 so I'm just going to say it (sorry mom). Go ahead and get down and dirty when you get that chastity belt off. Keep it spicy. Eat KFC in bed. Pretend Big Mac sauce is candle wax. Do everything you've always wanted to do with your spouse without getting the cops called on you for noise disturbances.
Don't be giving other people the squinty eyes in the mall or local putt-putt or wherever. That's not worth your time. You know they can't do broom Fantasia. Give your spouse those seduction squinty eyes. They deserve to know that they still got it.
Don't lie about anything. Nothing. Not even those little white lies of "I took the trash out" when you didn't. No. Yuck. Bad. Keep the lines of communication open about everything. So many people have a problem saying how they feel or what they're thinking. Just do it.
Lastly, enjoy it. You'll blink your eyes and you'll be having your 50th wedding anniversary. Work together to enjoy the good times."
Some Great Books to Read to help you have a marriage just like Tim and Laura.
The 5 Love Languages - by Gary D. Chapman
Love and Respect - by Emerson Eggerichs
Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage - by Mark Gungor
His Needs, Her Needs - by Willard F. Harley
Boundaries in Marriage - by John Preston and John Townsend
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