The essence of achieving a happy marriage is not innate, but in acquired practice.
Seeing these two words, some people must think that the practice in marriage is to make two people more suitable, to run in a better way, and to make the marriage run in a healthy way. In fact, it is not. It is because after the training of this marriage, both of them have been improved. Marriage has become a process for two people to improve and complement each other. I remember a friend said: "When I first met him, I asked him: What kind of relationship should you have between her and you? He was very fond of me at the time, staring into my eyes, and said affectionately: She Love me, I love her, and move up together."
I really admire that person, he said the highest state in a kind of marriage. But thinking about it again, the reason why he was able to say this at that time was because it was at a time of deep love, and he was in an idealized stage of marriage. At that time, the marriage was still far away in his heart. An ideal love paradise.
Is marriage the grave of love? Marriage has indeed eclipsed many originally glorious loves, cleared up many once vigorous loves, and turned many unforgettable loves into plain rice and boiled water. I have seen this statement in the article: in the state of love, love is the sea, two people seem to be swimming in the sea, maintaining an agitated state, while marriage is a beach, it is not required that two people stay swimming on the beach. Perhaps this article tells us that love still exists after marriage, but it has changed the form of existence, and perhaps we don’t recognize it. It has become warmer, elevated to soothing, but more lasting and warm. As people often say nowadays, holding your hand is like holding your right hand with your left hand. In fact, if after a long marriage, if the two can often hold hands, it is also a kind of happiness. The artistic conception of marriage that Chinese people yearn for: "hold the hand of the child, grow old with the child", and it does not say whether the two are still passionate about holding hands in their lives.
The key to marriage is whether you still have the patience to hold her hand after a long marriage, without passion and tenderness. If you don't even want this warmth, that is the true death of love.
After the ardent passion, it is a long and plain life, the flesh and blood of each other. It is not in many articles that after a woman has met a man, she has a deep relationship, but that man cannot leave his home. The woman described this as the man's selfishness and his betrayal of his feelings. In fact, it was true that he liked you at the beginning, but it is true that he can't let go of his current home. How can he let go of the feelings that have penetrated into his flesh and blood? But she would ask again, why should we be when we are today? He also didn't understand. In fact, it was the dullness of marriage that gave him the so-called passion outside of marriage, but that passion is emotional, and the connection between brothers and feet is a bond of flesh and blood. If you force him to leave, it is also the pain of broken bones. Even if he walks out of that home for you, in his dream, he still has to return to that home, and that home has become his home, his dream.
In fact, it's not that marriage obliterates love and life dilutes love, but what kind of material in the world will make you face each other every day, and at the same time make you feel passionate about it all your life? So if I want to open these, I also want to open up the dullness in the marriage. But who would say when walking into the marriage hall, my marriage is destined to be dull? Why do some of the temples of love that I longed for in my heart have become altars of love?