should-i-disclose-my-past-affairs-to-my-partner

in marriage •  7 years ago 

images.jpg

Question: I learnt I am not supposed to disclose my past sins after repentance. I wish to get married soon even though I haven’t found a suitor yet, but being a woman I fear that my husband would find out I have been with a man before when we are together. What do I say when he asks questions about who I have been with?

Thank you for your question.

Once you have repented, it is not necessary to disclose your past sin to others, even though it may be a major sin such as adultery and fornication. If the matter is brought up in your discussions to a potential spouse, you can simply say that you have committed some errors in the past which you have repented from.

Your current situation and character is what your spouse should be looking at. There is no need to talk about matters of the past, especially when you have repented.

“All the children of Ādam are sinful and the best of sinners are those who repent.”
And only God knows best.

Authors get paid when people like you upvote their post.
If you enjoyed what you read here, create your account today and start earning FREE STEEM!
Sort Order:  

Honesty is best.. if you cant be fully honest with your loved ones then they wont be the right one for you. If your honest from the start you will have a good relationship for many years. If you hide truth what ever that may be only means you haven't found the right person who will love you no matter what .

indeed you are right, i agree with you @todaysrant2017

Your current situation and character is what your spouse should be looking at

I think that if you are having thoughts about your past experiences and you are not sharing them then you are not allowing your partner to fully see your current situation. Someone who truly loves you will want to explore the landscape of your thoughts. Sometimes what gets communicated creates tensions but it is the power of love to overcome those emotional reactions and grow together compassionately. Hiding these thoughts that arise can potentially be alienating and toxic for a relationship and also for your own mental health. These are some of my thoughts. x basil

verily you are right @ x basil 'Honesty is the best policy'