In the name of God, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
From the pen-- Irshad Ahmad Poornavi
* Purposes of marriage *
Many praises and thanks be to Allah, the One and Only, Who created us not only as human beings, but by His grace and grace, He created us sinners in the ummah of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) and at every opportunity. Praise be to Allaah
Marriage is one of the most important occasions in life where a person needs to make a very thoughtful decision. One of the sayings of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was: Prioritize piety when choosing a relationship on the spot
Similarly, we should not forget to consider the purpose of marriage. The purpose of marriage is not only to fulfill one's desires or to get married only to gain fame or to get married only to accumulate wealth, but also a great purpose of marriage is life. I have to find a support that a man is naturally accustomed to external responsibilities by Allah Almighty, he can not fulfill the internal responsibility of the house by himself, so he needs some support that will help him inside the house. He could be supported by fulfilling his responsibilities
This is the reason why a man feels the need for a wife in old age more than in youth. If he marries, his children first boycott him in a way, and the woman he is married to refuses to accept him as their mother, and the main reason for all this is that Our minds are that now that she is married to my father, she will be entitled to inheritance and our share will be reduced while our responsibility is to treat the woman whom our father married as a mother. And stay away from such corrupt intentions and keep a close eye on the purpose of marriage
On the other hand, our elders are also kindly requested to take special care when remarrying that the woman entering the house in the form of a wife should not be younger than her own daughter so that instead of being ashamed to call her children mothers. We need to be proud and just as we need support at this stage of life, so we need to be a source of support. In this case too, we need to keep in mind the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) first married a widow who was older than him, while today we like to marry a second and third marriage to a virgin girl, and those who prefer to marry a divorced or widowed woman There are conditions due to which marriage of divorced and widowed women is becoming a difficult issue in the society and such women are seen doing cleaning work in pharmacies or sweeping other people's houses.
A woman needs support more than a man because no matter how chaste she lives, society looks at her with skepticism and her support is completely broken once she Before the marriage takes place, the same parents and siblings who happily fulfill her every need before the marriage. Once the marriage takes place, the same girl begins to feel burdened, while before the marriage, the girl's expenses are higher than after the marriage because Education is also spent before marriage and not after marriage. However, no girl is seen working before marriage. Conversely, once married, then for some reason divorced or widowed, often Women are seen to be working, so if men prefer such women to remarry, it will be a matter of support for them and the needs of the society will continue to be met.
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