Dating girls in Indonesia remains are largely materialistic. This is especially true with one of my "dates". Once they know that you are from the West or any foreigner in general, the rest does not matter much more. It's hard to find a partner that really cares about your character. I've experienced some, but rarely happens. But at the other hand. Let's face it man are treated as a king and they do everything you want without complaining.
I had an appointment with a girl from Aceh last week in Depok. Was all very cozy, we first went to a karaoke tent, "the pilot" around the corner at dbest fatmawati. That's a new tent designed as an airplane, it's funny. Then we are going to have some fun. And we had. Although you just pay her food, drinks and some taxi money (which they will put in their pockets and will take the bus) . A while date cost me not more then 30 euro incl all i want from her :)
Western girls
Western girls are the generally the complete opposite. They expect way too much attention for even a kiss to start with.They are always complicated and not easy to get a special treatment as I get the with most asian ladies. Also western woman can be rude, if a man tries to date with her and she is not interested, she will rudely say, get lost!! and not politely say that they are not interested in you.
In asia,mostly spoken even if they have a man that they love, they will still give you a friendly smile and no, sorry i am already taken and goodluck. So as a man you never feel bad.
Careless behaviour
Of course good communication after a while is missing and is very frustrating. Me and my date went to Sangrila hotel, the BATS, which is a basement venue , NY style. I sang there for the second time and that for such an expensive hotel is something.
So I have let myself known in this area.
Afterwards, I gave this girl money for the taxi, the next day she wanted to come by. At 16:00 she would be here. I do not hear anything at all. Phone is not active, I had her sister's number, see also did not know where she was hanging out, no text and did not hear anything for 3 days. Until she came online with yahoo messenger. I asked her why she had not heard anything from her, after which you got an answer, yes my phone was broken, no sorry nothing.
So I do not understand this kind of careless behaviour at all. Perhaps in the meanwhile she had been running someone else who had a lot more money, haha. Strange creatures. So if you fall in love and want to go seriously, try her out very well.
Cultural
Ignoring people is also part of the culture. Saying no as well. They would rather not tell you the truth about why they left you or ignoring you after you made an appointment with them. You have to remember that 90% of all appointments are not on time. When you make an appointment let's say at 5 pm. It means they leave their place at 5 pm and due to the worst traffic in jakarta it can easily become 2 hours later. Enjoy!