The Art of Being a Great Listener and How it Affects Your Relationships...

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Hi, Steemians!

People often believe that success stems from being able to talk and present yourself in a delicate manner and socialize with people.

While it is true that our power of speech greatly contributes to the first impression that people get from us, it is not usually what they want from a mutual relationship built on respect and affection.

Sometimes, in order to win the passion of someone who you are dealing with, you need to be a good listener.


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When someone comes to you for counsel or just wants to talk to you about his difficulties, you should not make the conversation about yourself. More so, you should not allow yourself to get preachy and tell them how they should live their lives.

Sometimes, all people truly want is someone who can listen to their words and understand what is going through their minds or hearts. Being able to listen is not just about being quiet, but about truly reflecting on the words of the other person and responding to them with care and dedication.

Inspiring people often need company to express their ideas and innovations.

If you are trying to make a friend of such people, or if you find that you are one yourself, you need to learn how to listen, and only then will you be able to create intimate relationships or expect the same respect out of the people close to you.


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Being a great listener is a subtle art. People usually want to talk about themselves, but great listeners rarely think about themselves when they are having a conversation.

This is usually great because when you do not pay attention to yourself and appreciate the other person enough to fully dedicate your mind to them, they will see this as a sign of great respect and give back the courtesies by trying to truly understand who you are and what you want.

Great listeners are often in a conversation because of the other person, and not because they themselves have something to say.


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I am not saying that you should always be a listener and rarely talk, as that would be out of the ordinary.

No, what you need to understand is that sometimes we need to be there for the people close to us, and that is why we have to learn how to be great listeners.

Great listeners are usually more successful in romantic relationships, as they will create a much more intimate bond with the other person as a result of their listening skills
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Even in business, being a great listener sends a message; that you are a professional person who is interested in the job and wants to really reflect on it.


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But you should not mistake being a great listener with someone who lacks the enthusiasm to talk. At the end, your body language indicates whether you are being a great listener or you are simply not interested in what the other person has to say, so you should not really be worried about that.

Being able to listen is like being able to fully appreciate what the other person has to say to you.

Learn how to be a great listener, and you can build much more profound and interesting relationships with other people based on trust, honesty, and vulnerability.

A BIG HUG!

@chbartist

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It’s important to know what type of person you are dealing with. Sometimes you have to make sure you are adapting your listening and communication skills based on the person you are conversing with. If you know how to do this, then you can have a successful conversation with most people you encounter.

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I completely agree with you, the ability to listen is very important, only in this way can we attract the interlocutor and establish a dialogue!

Excellent motivation and you are right, at all times and at different events, learning to listen to someone was a very useful skill and if you were able to do this, you can agree with anyone and build relationships!

Oh yes @chbartist, entering into a conversation with someone, should always have patience and the ability to listen to the interlocutor, because it helps us to enter into confidence with him, which is important in our way of life!

Excellent review, my friend, and if we want to be heard, first of all we must learn to listen, only so we will achieve understanding! Thank you @chbartist

Great message on how to be a good listener. You offered many good examples on how to do so in your post (I.e. not talking about yourself for instance). To add to what you are saying - dont give advice unless asked for it. Or ask the person first if they want your advice. As you suggested people want to talk about themselves and be listened to first and foresmost. Often they do not want you to solve their problems. Other techniques on how to be a good listener are to lean forward into the conversation to convey interest and encourage people to talk with head nods, questions, paraphrases, summarizing what they are saying, simple "mm-hmm"s and prompts.

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A good listener can be a a good speaker untill we don't listen words of the man how we can react and without listen we can reply on that topic . Ita more important 'we should speak, when our words are better than our silence . Good @chbartist
Thanks!

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Thanks for sharing this beautiful subject here.
Everyone loves truly understanding people especially speaking person.
Good listener they're remember Fallow up conversation wherever possible.
Great listener cares they're show empathy for what the other person has to say.

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there's an old saying that reminds us of the gift of being a good listener. "You have 2 ears and one mouth for a reason". Talking in a vacuum won't do anything. On the opposite, sitting silently with someone grieving can be what someone needs the most. Be with people, listen to what they have to say, let them share with you what's hard to share... That's how relationships are made of.

Ha! The art of listening! Finally someone sees the benefits and the true art of giving of oneself to benefit another and we in return benefit as well. Happy I ran into this blog at 1:00 am! I should be sleeping. :D

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Greetings @chbartist! Knowing how to listen requires practice.

We must silence our internal dialogue and pay attention to the sender and the message.

A good communication allows to develop pleasant social relationships, allowing a better quality of life for us and for others.

Good day!

Listening is a key factor in meaningful engagement as it allows for the people involved to better understand and develop a bound which leads to trust. As this is built, great things can be created as efforts are leveraged by a common understanding and power.

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@chbartist when we listen carefully any other and will take interest then sure it will show our caring nature and it will make relationship good .
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Sir very good and interesting subject here's you're sharing some buddy very nice speaking they're being able to inspire others but listeners is more important things.
Listner is good they make eye contact and don't interrupt with positive body language.

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Great Post @chbartist,
Great Listener = Great Speaker,
Great Post = Great Upvotes, Comment & Followers.
Thanks For Providing Great Inspiring Post Continuously.

Great writing, listening to others is a great art, speaker always gets satisfaction by sharing his feelings, its needs patients to be listener, thanks for excellent writing.

Listening to others really a good skill because in this world there are lack of effective listener. If we want to achieve our Target we have to be a great listener because a good listener sunrise all the ideas he listen and develop an amazing idea from the material.
Listening is also effective in our relationship. A good listener can develop a healthy relationship.
It is necessary to be a good listener then an advisor to be successful or achieve our goals.

My grandpa said: who listen advices comes to old. And this is real. Cheers @chbartist

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Listen is an ability to grasp the words and sounds flowing inside the ear going through the membrane registering to the mind for final analysis of the brain.
Its crucial how important listening is. This could not be underestimated.
It plays a vital role in human decision makings.

Listening is an art and its better to listen more rather than speaking but this is conditional depending upon situations. It's a good attitude to listen another person carefully and understand what that person is trying to explain. If we don't listen and start speaking then it will affect in two ways. First we can't understand in a better way and second another person may not explain and might have a different perspective about us. Thanks @chbartist

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If listening is an art then I am an artist. :)

@chbartist sir
The subject matter which we do not know about, we should remain as a listener, because the discussion of people gets an opportunity to know better about it by reasoning argument. Ego of knowledge is always harmful. A good listener is the one who always tries to learn from the arguments and experiences of others. Being a good listener is the art of a method because in life we ​​get to learn from every small and big thing. We can take the example of great philosopher Socrates who always talk and listen people carefully when ever he finds time even an open street. He taught the people first educate to your mind how to learn.
Thank you for spreading awareness.

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I like this topic very much, knowing how to listen is from people wise, from a successful person in all areas of your life, if you know how to listen to your partner, the relationship will be perfect, if you know how to listen in business you will know how to manage your business satisfactorily, if you learn to listen to your children, you will have a good relationship with them ... it is so important to know how to listen that even in the bible, it is mentioned that we must know how to listen.

James 1: 19-20

For this, my beloved brothers, every man be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger;

When we really listen to the person speaking to us, the bonds take hold ... it's not about pretending to listen, it's really listening and paying attention.

I try not to, but I tend to think about what I'm about to say instead of listening.

Nothing beats a great listener. I am one and most times when I still have issues of mine, don't tell anyone, I just simply talk to myself and listen to my inner thoughts. Listening to others rant or talk about something painful helps develop a better relationship

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That someone came to us to tell us about their problems or perhaps asking for advice is an important responsibility, since it is a trust that has been granted to us and in some way we can not let it down. Listening carefully, having a visual contact with the other is paramount.
In this listening role, the most important thing is to help the other person with an objective approach to the facts. When we are immersed in a problematic situation we always see the negative side of things. A third person, who has a good capacity to listen can make us see the positive aspects that are presented to us, the opportunities that are there within our reach.

I recently read a book that talks about this "how to win friends" I identify with everything you say, success is in little things.

Like it!!! Thank you!!

And big hug to you also. Thank you. 🤩🤩🤩

we must know how to listen. It's not the same, hear what you hear. being a good listener, denotes, how educated we can be, and shows, how important we are to the conversation, that we have with another person

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To be honest, this is one of the areas I really need to improve on. I know it takes practice to be a good listener and have being working on my listening skills for months now then I realized it takes patience to be good at Listening, the both go hand in hand.

An inpatient person would find it difficult to become a good listener especially when he/she will have to pay attention to the other person for a longer period of time than expected.

On this note, I had to be more patient than I ever was, patience enough to listen even when the discussions takes longer than I would have wanted it to.

Thanks for the words of wisdom @chbartist, If is not too much to ask I love to be part of the list.

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I think we need not only listen but also hear other people! Also we need can to define rather our opponent want just to speek or be envolved in dialog. This is my opinion

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look, in life, I've been in conversations, where I know they hear me, but I know, they do not listen to me. Sometimes, we have conversations, with people who have nothing of interest about what we are talking about, or have no idea of ​​what we are telling them, what makes them respond, things that do not contribute anything to the conversation, and , they make the person finish thinking, that he lost his time, during the whole journey that the conversation lasted.

The good listener, in addition to showing education, shows indications of the type of person he is, and how sociable he could be.

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Listening well is probably one of my biggest weaknesses. I do not have lot of interaction with others in the first place. When I do it is normally with me being the teacher. I find myself rushed and nervous and eager to get my message out.

I'm helping people with weight loss and come from the place the other person is now. I feel like I know their story already and they do not know the answers I have to give them. With limited time available, I want to educate. And with limited resources of my own, hearing the story of why the person is fat and why they have failed to lose weight in the past seems to drag me down emotionally.

But now I will re-think this. Maybe if I can let them talk more it will be better for their success.

GRACIAS POR ESTOS CONSEJOS.
Es correcto lo que dices, a veces alguien viene a pedirnos consejos y nos dedicamos a hacerle comentarios de nosotros mismos.
Me ha pasado "Ser un buen oyente es un arte sutil" Perfecto.
Te lo creo, y hay que ser audaz para entenderlo y aplicarlo en nuestras vidas.

Me preocuparé más de ahora en adelante para ser más cuidadosa y aprender a escuchar, eso me permitirá que me acerque más a las personas.
Suelo hablar mucho. Practicaré para no hacerlo en exceso, y escuchar mas al otro.
Gracias por el artículo. muy bueno.
Te felicito.

@chbartist yes I want to join your community and I want to ask if someone is a great listener and he/she listens the problems of his/her friend's problems, what if he/she is suffering from the same problems but he/she can't express it?

very nice post!

❤️

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