You want to forgive the person who has hurt you the most but facing difficulty in how to forgive the person who you think is the reason for your pain and hurt. In the previous post, we have discussed the benefits of forgiveness. Now, we will see how to prepare the mind to forgive another person. Because it is our mind and ego that stops us to forgive people.
You have to think like mentioned below:
Everyone is doing their best according to their maturity level, experiences and knowledge of life. For example, a baby who only eat, cry and sleep. We do not get hurt by their activities because we know that baby is not so mature and he does not know what he is doing. In a similar manner, every person does things according to their perspective, thinking level and mindset.
No one is perfect. We are just human and it's natural to make mistakes. We also do mistakes, hurt people, say wrong words but we easily forgive ourselves. So, why it is so difficult to forgive others. Everybody has good and bad characteristics in them. We should not leave people for their weaknesses rather help them overcome them (until and unless it is of serious wrong nature). Because no one is perfect in this world except god.
Stop taking things personally. Other person behaviour towards you reflects their thinking perspective, nature, their weaknesses. Everyone is fighting their own battle. There can be many reasons behind a person's wrong or rude behaviour. We only know what they have done but not what they are suffering from. Try not to take other's words, actions personally as it will hurt you only.
We all are made by god. So, no one is bad, only their qualities, habits and perspective is not good. Hate their wrong qualities and behaviour, not the person. The person is sleeping subconsciously (not awake) and forgotten their true nature that's why they are not aware of what they are doing to you and most importantly with self.
Soul contracts: people who have hurt you are your soul karmic contracts means you have done an agreement with these souls that they will make you learn this lesson. Pain is the greatest teacher and a tool for soul evolution. Hence, they are not wrong, they are just doing what is according to the soul contracts. To give us pain, they are carrying pain for that. Hence, we should thank those people who are helping our soul to grow.
A person can give only what he has. So, people treating you some way is what they do with themselves. They are giving you what they have. Example, criticism, cheating, pain, hurt.
Be compassionate towards others, you might not know what they are going through. A person who is carrying pain can only give pain and hurt. I hope you understood. Now, train your mind accordingly. Keep spreading positivity and see miracles in your life and relationships.