How to turn your pain and suffering into a learning experience

Life involves pain. It's part of it, like joy and pleasure. It seems like a fatal coincidence or a whim of fate, yet it's just an extension of our existence. This is why we cannot avoid it, and any attempt would be futile.

Pain, like joy, connects us to our core. Both teach us life's most critical lessons and guide us.

Unfortunately, we often turn pain into misery. In an unending, bitter sip we drink dry. We seem desperate to suffer more.

Being nostalgic or wanting to stay with your misery is fine—sometimes even necessary. Meeting ourselves for coffee and facing our loneliness. This human encounter.

When our route is full with hurdles, the most worrisome thing is the weight we add, which causes even more agony. When we tell ourselves this sadness will stay forever, we increase this weight.

This additional suffering can be reversed and turned into a learning experience that exponentially improves our existential awareness.

We must recognise our pain and determine if it is psychological, physical, social, or existential. We must recognise our pain, gaze in her face, and stay with her throughout this special meeting we discussed before in this essay.

To talk to it, we must be clear about something: pain tells us something isn't working and is disrupting our mental tranquilly. This is why we must understand where and why this discomfort occurs.

By addressing these questions, we won big. We must be honest and listen to this grief to do this. Running away or half-listening to fear is pointless. Pain exposes us, therefore we must listen with all our senses and sincerity.

Garcia-Monge argues, "Pain can burn a body part." Suffering can ruin a person.” This is so true... Suffering can severely impair our intellect and incapacitate us.

We make our grief endure when we project ourselves into time, giving it limitless persistence or disastrous messages without hope.

Recognising our actions that worsen our pain is taking accountability. So it grows and a gentle shower becomes a flood.

Again, blaming others will only make us feel worse. It's usually deceptions that last.

By performing the preceding stages, we will have achieved enough aims to find calm, which we will never find if we postpone the appointment with pain. A meeting in person.

We may have soothed it with something that soothes and grounds us. Each person knows what helps and doesn't. All solutions are not equally effective. That's living.

“To know existentially that we are greater than our own pain” remarked Garcia-Monge. Another stirring sentence to write. Being bigger than our anguish implies accepting that we are more than our misery.

We are more. This means realising that we have tremendous resources that we must uncover and employ to help us make this tough but human transition from suffering to learning.

We encourage those going through a hard time to listen to themselves honestly, take responsibility for what belongs to you and not others, and embrace yourself.

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