Push!!! The doctor tells the mother in labour, and after some struggles, the battle is won and the new life is added to this cruel world.
“Three things determine a man’s make-up, his genetic combination, the environment and unique experiences”- Francis Akinsemolu.
There are basically 4 temperamental traits: the outgoing and lively sanguine, the strong-willed, stubborn and aggressive Choleric, the meditative, quiet and calculative melancholic and the steady, slow and understanding Phlegmatic.
This remains the reason why a very funny dad may have a son/daughter who is also funny, as the child has picked up the sanguine trait of the parent which is the genetic make-up. In the same vein the environment has a way of infiltrating and sending its own signal to the growing individual.
This is the reason; a Choleric in Lekki would naturally be less aggressive and calmer than a choleric in Ajegunle as the razzmatazz and the bubbling or nefarious activities of these two areas of Lagos differs. While Lekki is the cool, serene and residential area of the affluent and the crème de la crème of the Lagos society, Ajegunle on the other hand is the home of the rough, the men of the underworld and the den of the craziest among the crazy of Lagos, it also truly lives out the mantra “Survival of the fittest”.
Among the coordinating cardinals that shape and model the lifestyle of the youths of this generation, I bet to say the unique experiences we encounter ends up being the litmus that determines what our science students tag PH value (acidity and alkaline level) of our life.
Our unique experiences range from having abusive parents to rough childhood, heart wrecking break-ups, rape, assault, sudden wealth e.t.c
It is quite unfortunate that these unique experiences have been the determinants of the way the youths of these generation live their life.
Many of us have at one point in our lives been raped or assaulted which has continually haunted us and made of us “hateful” individuals. We now hate the opposite sex or an unnatural fear continually pokes in our heart thus becoming an albatross around our neck.
Many of us lived our childhood and teenage years with abusive parents who continually drummed into our hearings how useless and worthless we are. They continually expose our flaws to us making us to come to the reality that we are meant to serve our mates and that we are never going to amount to anything in life.
We now live our lives plagued with inferiority complex and need good clothes to feel good crave for the acceptance of others to live our lives and now a disgrace to what we should have become. We are now condemned to live a life of second fiddle.
Many of us have gone through nerve wrecking break-ups that leaves us shattered, broken and now depressed. Life is now boring and there seems not to be any reason to live any longer as we now feel life itself is a mirage and we need to stop it to stop the illusion.
Am not coming today, as a saint or a saviour, but, as a friend that have shared your experience. It is time to beat these unique experiences in their game of making life a living hell, it is time to stand on our feet and make a meaning out of life.
The only thing that can stop you from living your best life is not that rape, assault, inferiority complex e.t.c. but you. It is time to break from the frame and live a life with purpose. If you refuse to live your life, progenity would curse you for denying them the right to impact
I believe in your success and your dramatic recovery from the life of an under-dog to that of a super-achiever.