Looking self doubt in the mirror - a path to overcoming the double binds of Self Doubt

Allow me to start out vulnerably. My last teen years and entry into adulthood was a dedication to spiritual experience of my own kind. Self reflection, introspection and the communal likes. It wasn't the prettiest thing in the world, it was rough. As self work is. From that,

I know only- that I know nothing.

Yet, you might think, how can one be confident without 'knowing'? You MUST know to behold confidence!

No, knowledge is the bull that we packed our doubts, and shame on to avoid it. It is the battering ram that has driven us, but drive only builds upon the foundation. Is your foundation aligned with the place you want to grow from?

Also, 'knowing' is a natural want, humans want to have an answer or we kinda freak out. OUR minds are built to seek answers. But, to have an answer, we don't have to know. We can live in balance.

Are you comfortable with saying you don't know? How about living with you don't know?

Sounds... Healthy. Sounds like someone willing to learn every step of the way. But to do so in a healthy way, in a CONFIDENT way to pave the blazing trails to the rest of our lives we must come through for ourselves. We must deal with our own self defeating horribly critical interwoven habits.

We must catch the fly. Observe our own inner dialogue. Ask, is this dialogue supporting me to be the best me I can possibly be? If the answers no. Replace it.

Find your mantras.
Build your principals. These are your war horses you need to reprogram the negativity thoughts.

Because, we can't 'delete' thoughts. We can't 'delete' habits. We, must replace them. And trust me, for every pain, or dependency to transcend it- we must have a bigger why. We must have a bigger carrot for the mind to latch onto. This comes down to your story.

Change your story. Find your why. Observe your thoughts.
Get off the pattern of using the battering ram of knowledge, build yourself flexibly. And then, you may become the adaptable ghost in the night. The waters that Bruce Lee speaks upon.