You do watta you gotta do!

“You do watta you gotta do,” those six broken English words, spoken by my Papa, gave me permission to start living. I thought I had been, but at the end of a 10 year relationship, I was beside myself. Distracted and curious about my future more than ever, this unrest made me question many things. Did I stay in my marriage longer so not to disappoint my family? Was our 4 year old daughter better off in a split home? How was I going to live on a single income? Would I find love again? One thing I did know, this hardship was an opportunity.

My situation in not uncommon yet, many of us go through the motions of living by default rather than by choice. We lose interest in our day to day by taking care of the kids, household chores, work, sleep and repeat. I experienced a growth spurt like never before. I was trying to make up for lost time by getting my mental age to match my chronological age. Hungry like a beast, I was ravenous, binging on life’s abundance. It’s pretty much all that you can imagine, only not pretty!

Being unsatisfied initiated change, I committed going beyond “okay”. My inner perception didn’t match my outer perspective. I took steps to understand and correlate the two. I’m continually wavering between ebb and flow. When the grasp of getting “it” is within reach, my inner knowing guides me through uncertainty. We may never get all the answers to life’s BIG questions, however, this reassurance can ease our mental sate while being receptive for the next shift in thought.

Do you ever wonder if there’s something more? Are you truly satisfied or is it fine until life gives you no other choice? With an endless supply of resources available at the end of our fingertips, why aren’t more people in search of answers? Don’t wait for your life to flash before your eyes or witness someone fight for theirs. Now is the time for you to decide on how you want to live the rest of this ONE life. By understanding ourselves on a deeper level, we can bring meaning and purpose to our lives. This is not a destination, it’s a state mind. Thoughts become beliefs, allow your thinking to continually evolve.
Goals emotionally motivated for success (GEMS), a strategy for purposeful living with balance in all areas. Love, money, relationships, career and all the parts that enrich and makeup who we are. These multi facets should be cherished as they reflect our value and character. When you devote time into developing yourself, your motives become clear and your priorities find a new order. If changing your awareness on your current reality could gain insight on how it came about, could this interpretation possibly alter your life’s course?

Goals are made but we might not be truthful on why they were set. This doesn’t mean you were dishonest with yourself but rather, it felt right at the time. Emotions are complicated but many avoid, downplay, justify, exaggerate and so on. Get in tune with you and learn how your feelings can impact or dictate your decisions. Motivation is the fuel you’ll need, get inspired for follow through and accountability. Success, this is not a destination, it’s a state of being. One person's definition of success could be another’s place of misery.
There are no labels or judgments when pure unadulterated objectivity is applied. Time and patients are a must for this simple process, but don’t confuse simple with easy! Are you ready to get out of your comfort zone and start seeing obstacles as opportunities? I hope you’ll join me as we take a proactive and thought provoking approach to life. Get in touch with our deeper selves and make connections with others. Discover your GEMS and you do watta you gotta do!