Life isn't perfect or controllable. There are many unexpected scenarios and effects. Accepting and managing this truth is part of growth. However, failing to accomplish this and growing up with a low frustration tolerance causes much misery.
When anything goes wrong, we either accept it and move on or stay negative and victimised. Anyhow, changing the past is impossible. Which do you choose? Flexibility opens doors, rigidity closes them.
Children are impulsive and irritable because their cognitive capacities are still developing. Children have trouble deferring gratification because they want it now. Denial of their desires can lead to anger, crying, screaming, and unpleasant behaviour.
Teaching kids to handle frustration is one of the hardest parts of teaching. However, it is essential. We shouldn't suffer if we can't always attain what we desire. A youngster who is allowed nothing during childhood cannot develop this skill.
Some parents heed their children's every request to spare them grief and disappointment. They give in and strive to anticipate the child's needs and desires to avoid any discomfort.
These are caring acts: “he will have time to suffer when he grows up”. You must experience frustration in childhood to learn to tolerate it. Otherwise, it will be worse in adulthood and we won't know how to handle it.
We start with overprotective parents, but it doesn't condemn us. As adults, we may modify our mindset and improve our weaknesses at any time. If you find hardship difficult, see it as a major injustice, or feel enormous distress when your wishes are not achieved, remember that you can change.
Stop desiring total control. Stop trying to control and foresee everything in your life. Don't fear change or uncertainty. Allow everything to happen without attachment. Needing control doesn't affect what happens, but it steals your peace of mind.
Expect realistically. We should not assume we can always get what we desire or never face difficulties. As adults, we must realise that neither people nor events revolve around us. Thus, when setting expectations, consider reality as well as your ideal.
Be adaptable. Dreaming, wanting, and working towards goals is legal. However, we must recognise that conditions change and adjust. You must adapt your thoughts and behaviours to changing circumstances. Give up on your preconceived notions and consider the new facts the environment provides.
Finally, embrace and trust after failure. Insecurity and anxiety of facing life's challenges are hidden in a poor frustration tolerance. Trust your abilities to handle emotional pain and move forward. Also, trust the process.
Everything may not go as planned, but you may be on the right track. Remember to accept, adapt, and believe. Not a victim, you can choose your response.