RELATIONSHIP TIPS : WHEN YOU DON'T FEEL LOVED!

in motivation •  7 years ago 

There comes a time in a love relationships/marriages where it seems that either one or both persons do not feel as much love as they used to when they both decided to go down the path of the lovers creek.
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It will interest you to know that such times must be present in any relationship and it's not necessarily because the persons involved no longer are in love with each other. Amongst other things, it may be due to some misplaced knowledge (that's if the knowledge was present in the first place) which, if not kept at the centre of our minds, the loss may eventually lead to the ultimate collapse of such relationship.

So, what do you do when such times arise in your relationship? These are some of the things you need to know that will in turn spur you to actions which will lead to a habit, then a character which becomes a part of you naturally. Okay, here they are:

1) KNOW WHAT LOVE REALLY MEANS:

Love is not a feeling or a set of behaviors that suddenly comes upon you when you are so attracted to someone.

Love is a decision to give your best to someone; it's a commitment that sprouts from a conviction.

It's an ongoing unconditional exercise of faith which can only be found in its origin, the Creator Himself. Being open to the love that comes from the Father is surely one way to get love flowing again in your relationship.

The understanding of what true love is goes a long way in replenishing your ability to love back when it seems that your spouse/partner isn't even responding and/or when you don't feel his/her love for you.
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2) LOVE YOURSELF:

Not feeling loved could also be as a result of not valuing yourself and loving you for who you have been designed to be. God's Word says that we all have been wonderfully and fearfully made. Each of us was made to have a certain uniqueness, so, it's important that you love yourself and appreciate your make up. That's how you'll find the confidence that always attracts your spouse/partner towards you.
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3) DEAL WITH MISUNDERSTANDINGS:

Misunderstandings are what I refer to as little foxes that spoil the vineyard of love relationships. You can't be too careful not to offend your loved one no matter how much you try, it's bound to happen sometimes. The best way to overcome is is to always be open, let out whatever you have in your heart and discuss it with your spouse/partner, that solves a lot and helps love blossom.

4) KEEP COMMUNICATING:

Take this away from any relationship and before you know it, the emotional connection ends first and soon after, the entire relationship dies out like a beautiful flower cut off from its source. When it comes to communicating, use everything and anything to talk, communicate with your spouse/partner about anything and everything. Tell them anything you think, feel or even fear. Do not hold anything back. Even make a discussion out of the fact that you're sorry about something you realised you did wrong. Like scripture says, admitting our shortcomings and praying for each other helps us find healing for our souls.
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The feeling of being unloved is just that - a feeling. It changes, varies in that it comes and goes but true love is unconditional,its real and constant. In this knowledge, comes the ability for love to thrive continuously in a relationship which is very attainable so make the difference for I believe you can.

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@thelovejunkie,

Enjoyed your post.

Namaste,

JaiChai

@jaichai thank you for reading and dropping your comment. I appreciate you. Namaste

Nice of you to drop a post like this. A lot of people need this.

thanks for sharing

i needed this

Thanks bro @korexe and I won't stop dropping more to people can learn the vital truths about Love to as to make the right choices.

Inspiring post...i choose to Love against all odds

Yes dear, that's the right decision to make and watch how great your life will become great when you make Love a motivator @deegurl. I appreciate you

Its been long i read from your blog last. It wonderful reading this piece of love insight again.

After love might have been established then communication becomes paramount.

Thanks dear bro @fadiji09 for always dropping by. I can say you are one that really enjoy reading my blog. Cheers

Earlier this week I saw a post(a poem to be precise) based on love and after going through it I commented

Love hurts

The author replied

Yes it does

I laughed immediately I saw that. Why did I laugh?

Even with the comment I made, I knew deep inside me that there's more to love than just hurt and misunderstandings.
These two I believe are what makes the love worth the whole scenario.

Love is all about the other person and never you. You can't decide to be selfish and expect love would work (not unless the other party has enough love to forget your selfishness), it's about selflessness, it's about looking to understand and tolerate your partner.

To achieve this full blown spectacle called love the key component to be used is communication. Without it the relationship is just one piece of fallen furniture with no one willing to have a look at it.

Always talk when you're displeased, unhappy, upset, annoyed, when you've discovered something you don't like, when you've been HURT and stop taking the matter to the gods.

Nice post

Smiles. J! That was me
We met here again!
Well now i understand

Awesome, absolutely! Thanks for this comment, you know it can stand out even as a post on its own here on steemit and it will fly. And you are right, communication is a vital part of making love work. Thanks again bro @j-stark

Really?

I'll try dropping it on its own. I pray I use the right tags.

I should be thanking you ma'am. You made the post.

Wow, and you spoke directly to me.
I taught love was just a feeling, i never knew it was a commitment.
Thank you very much for this motivation

You are most welcome my dear sis @rebeccafl. For anything to work or survive, it has got to be connected robots source. The source of love is God. Bless you sis

Love could sometimes get sour but only for as long as we allow ourselves to wallow in hurts and unforgiveness.

Yeah, so we decide what course to chart our lives in all of life's matters. Thanks dear @evashinen

This is a great reminder for all of us who have someone to love ❤

Yes dear @sam. hsuu. Thanks alot for dropping by. I appreciate you

Whenever I see a post or comment with your name attached to it, I have no doubt that it is authentic and undiluted. Thanks for emphasizing on the fact that love is a decision and it goes beyond feelings. I have engaged a steemian in an argument concerning this fact.

Am indeed honored to meet you... now i see i have to learn from the masters... your writing is as intelligent and charming as u speak...

This article will really help the singles and even the married.
Personally, i enjoyed this post because it is exactly what i need right now.
Thanks @thelovejunkie for an inspiring post.

Thank you for this. I really appreciated this at my current location and time in life. Im looking foward to the future of all your wonderful content.