I think one of the biggest problems that we face in our society in our day and age in our generation whatever you want to consider it 'Is we really try to hide the truth from people?'. We have grown in this world where everything is fair, everybody gets a trophy, nobody has left behind, nobody is different (everybody have at least one talent hidden inside them). Don't get me wrong. I am all for being equal. You know treating people equally, but the thing is as humans we are different. We see things different, we even feel things differently sometimes although we can relate to other people are not all the same.
As human beings we take losses, and I think it's today's world where we grow up and it's more normal to not let somebody understand that they took a loss is really negative. It creates room for people to start making excuses gives them the reason for people to start pointing the finger and other directions for not taking responsibility for themselves.
At the end of the day if you're not happy where you are it's your problem the circumstances could be different compared to other people you could have definitely been dealt a shitty hand. Trust me I understand my life. Isn't perfect. It's never gonna be perfect. It's never been perfect. But at the end of the day I had full control over my situation cause i know deep within that everything happened was because of my choice.
If you're not happy with where you are. If you're not happy with what you're doing. It's pretty simple stop doing it. People gonna ensure you get everything scary, challenging, risky, and you never know what's gonna happen. But at the end of the day isn't that why we are alive i.e. to experience various opportunity that we're given and not just sit by and watch it go to waste.
Over all your goals your ambitions and your objectives are yours but so is the outcome and the process if you want it to happen you can make it happen if you don't you won't. So stop blaming other people for your faults.
BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF