Do you care too much about what people think of you?
Do these people affect your decision in life?
Do you find yourself pleasing other people to like you?
Would you rather follow what everyone else is doing in life to assimilate?
I bet you do and most folks are.
You cannot deny that we are living in such a time and generation in which you are reluctant to make a move in life or to follow your dreams because you want to assume an image which is expected of you.
Here are some examples:
You chose a career which is related to your parents preference. You would rather stuck yourself in being an employee than to ever risk starting a business of your own when deep inside you know that your current job is no longer in line of your values. You wanted to strike out and embark on a novel opportunity but you think twice because you are afraid of being judged.
You see, the way you think about people's opinions solely affects your mindset and decision making in all facets of your life. And most of the time, you are unconscious about it. You make a choice everyday that is according to what looks ideal and acceptable.
However, in the real world that’s not the case.
THE COVID19 CRISIS
Life has never been the same anymore since the COVID 19 attacked the whole world. Majority of the people are either starving to death or just trying to make both ends meet day by day.
Knowing that people came from different walks of life, not all people are tremendously affected by this financial and economic crisis. The pain is indeed subjective. The struggles of one is totally different to another. While someone is starving, the others can still eat the food that they want. While most people got suddenly unemployed, some were still able to earn their paycheck by working from home.
Although, some are still financially blessed, majority of the population across the globe succumbed to death and went broke. Even the middle-class people are not immune to this financial crisis since most of them would not get paid if they do not work. As a result, people who are currently unemployed were forced to do odd jobs they’re not suppose to do.
You see, most people are financially struggling at this time. Even the ones who do not deserve to have financial assistance from the government are asking for their share. Some became thieves of their own community in search for food and money.
On the business side, most of the businesses were closed down and some have unfortunately declared bankruptcy. Being capable of creative thinking, business people were forced to change their marketing strategy in order to save their business. So as you can see nowadays, products are being purchased online and sent to customers’ houses. The businesses became mobile, wiser and novel. You might find the businesses nowadays getting peculiar because some of which were selling something we least imagine. You would not expect a food business to sell out face shields and face masks.
In a nutshell, PRIDE at this time of serious crisis dissipated. People at this point do not care anymore what kind of job they are going to apply as long as they are getting hired immediately then get paid, business people do not care anymore even if they alter their business model, as long as they would do whatever it takes to keep the revenue coming in.
Therefore, if you have an urge within yourself to improve as a person in all facets of your life, just go for it. Quit caring about what others think of you. Most folks are just the same as you striving to earn a living. As long as you are not compromising others and you are not hurting anybody, you are on the right track to achieve what you really want in life.
PEOPLE WILL STILL JUDGE YOU EITHER WAY
Whether you do good or bad, whether you’re being nice or rude, whether you are generous or stingy, people will still have something negative to say about you. This is one of the ugly truths about life.
Therefore, your decisions in life must not be relative to what is expected of you. Even if your preference will mean heading to a different way, just carry on as long as you are aiming at your bottom line.
For instance, you have a degree, you had been supported financially as a college student back then by your parents. So they are expecting from you now to land a stable job with a monthly income. However, you came to a realization that you prefer getting paid based on results, not time. You wish to strike out from the expected career choice and head to another kind of career opportunity but you do not want to disappoint your parents.
Looking back to the time that you head their advice, you are still told off as mediocre and not having much.
Whether you have an ideal job or not, people will still put critics on your choice. So might as well just follow what your heart says. If you’ve always wanted to become entrepreneur, celebrity, artist or a freelancer, go for it. In the end, you can never please people to like you.
NO ONE IS GOING TO SUPPORT YOU IF YOU ARE BROKE
Have you ever experienced being financially down to the ground, starving and broken and when you reached to your friends and relatives for help they turned their back away from you as if you are stranger. Not only did they declined to help you but also they scoffed at your weakness. You get told off for being broke and lack of initiative to make a living.
If you have experienced this, you’d better vow to yourself to be resilient and committed to earn money by your own efforts. Do whatever it takes to make money and then you will never have to live off others. People are generous, most folks are, but only few of whom are willing to give up something to help other people.
LIFE IS TOO SHORT AND UNPREDICTABLE AT THE SAME TIME
Life is too short. Yes, it is. Have you ever heard of someone existing until at the age of 100 and over? Yes, You might have. And then we call it “quite a long life”.
What makes life as too short is when someone has suddenly died and yet he has not achieved what he really wanted in his life. When someone reached the old age and yet he has not done anything for his real ambition. Life is too short indeed. And it is unpredictable because we do not know what will happen next .
To live life to the fullest, you must do the things that you want to do, try something new you’ve always wanted to and achieve something even if it’s impossible for others. Longevity only depends on how we live our life. So that if you suddenly succumb to an end unexpectedly but you have done everything your heart desires, your soul is not going to regret about anything. .
EVERYTHING IS A RISK
No matter how good, kind, sexy and good-looking you are, you are never immune to being cheated by your love one.
No matter how lucrative your business is, it is still likely to close down in the future. Just like what happened to the most businesses nowadays.
No matter how luxurious your house is, it is still not vulnerable to being burnt down by fire and destroyed by an earthquake
If you are trying to accumulate your savings, what you have will be possibly spent on financial problems.
Whether you are rich or poor, you will always have so-called problems and obstacles in life
No matter how wealthy a country is, it is not immune to the crisis.
Regardless of what job you have and how financially secure you are, your job is still temporary at the face of economic recession.
Even if you try to be perfect to someone, you will never be enough
See? Everything in life is a risk because LIFE is a constant CHANGE.
So if you decide to make a bold move for the better, you must have nothing to lose and just carry on. Everything is a risk anyway.
All people have small voices within them to make a significant change in their lives to be better, financially free and successful. However, we are living in such an era where we are surrounded by people whose outlook are different from ours, people who would either scoff at our plans or pull us down to put us off in getting ahead of them.
But if you aspire to become successful, if you have an unshakeable motive to reach your goals, it’s just all depends on you.
You are the captain of your life. You are responsible of your own success. You will not be a cup of tea for everyone, no one is going to support you but yourself. So go after to where you will be heading.