How avoiding external conflicts leads to internal conflicts

We may go against our will to avoid conflict. We explode unexpectedly when we give in.

Have you ever considered the effects of the daily conflicts you avoid?

A heated argument, a badly digested refusal... We don't care enough to let them bully us.

You can't avoid arguments forever, no matter how hard you try. Deep inside, this quarrel will cause a much worse battle. You will lose too.

This “no” you didn't utter out of fear of your conversation partner will start to affect you negatively.

In your head, “yes” and “no” will clash. These contradictory feelings will make you act hesitantly.

There's nothing worse than accepting uninteresting tasks. This makes us unhappy and awful. Do you know why? We know we're lying to ourselves deep down.

This is self-sabotage. We attempt to keep others from giving up on us. These repeated tiny gestures erode our self-respect.

We gain nothing from avoiding conflict. We must prioritise our interests and overcome this crippling fear of angering others.

Don't bear others' issues. Listen to your heart and express your own desires.

Without this, these tensions will linger and you'll be dissatisfied in yourself.

Conflict avoidance involves emotions. We aggressively repress them to avoid feeling them, which has bad effects.

Repressing our emotions doesn't mean they won't flow. They will express themselves even if we try to stop them.

Not saying what we want to say, not expressing our viewpoint for fear of how others will seem, not stating what annoys us in our partner, friends, or siblings' behaviour causes us to lose control eventually.

This will cause feelings to accumulate, filling the cup.

Negative feelings boil over and erupt. When you least anticipate it, in the simplest and worst way.

Missing so many chances to express ourselves will lead to total control loss. Repressed emotions can convert a simple conflict into chaos.

If your loved ones don't comprehend your reactions, you're in the emotional explosion phase.

Holding emotions deep makes our body scream. Not medically necessary headaches and digestive issues result. Repression caused it all.

Your anxieties make you realise you're not being yourself. You become your own poison, abandoning your values.

Don't dodge conflict to please others. The Dantesque reaction you envision others having to your simple refusal may only be in your imagination.

It could be real, but you've gotten into the habit of never refuting them.

Change. Stop self-harming and worrying about others. You must prioritise your health and pleasure.

You value yourself more than others. Stop doing things you don't like.

Reduce your pondering and preoccupation. Our mental storms are the worst.

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