How constructive criticism can help us grow

External judgements shouldn't shape our life. We must learn to dismiss harmful criticism but accept constructive criticism to progress.
I lend my shoes to my path judges.

How often have others judged you? My route differs from others. It must be remembered.
People's opinions regarding our actions and inactions might be overwhelming on top of our regular responsibilities.

It is difficult to ignore criticism of our activities. Especially from vital figures like family and friends.

If someone judges us without knowing our emotions, they will never be our friend or partner. Or without understanding our backs, hearts, and experiences.

You alone know the ache of picking up those stones. Occasionally, you traversed rivers without assistance.

Our journey and critical paths determine us.
You are more than the mirror woman. You're not defined by your clothes or speech.

You are this road and all your deep-seated experiences, which no one else should know if you want to keep it that way.

No one must discuss their failures, successes, or disappointments. How come some people judge without knowing?

Some people are harmful influences.
Judgement-prone people are most frustrated.

People with unhappy personalities transfer their demand for control onto others.

Our loved ones often evaluate us: “You did everything wrong from the start, you believe you can succeed in everything when it is not always like that”.
These people criticise us to help and teach us, but they really seek to dominate and “fit” us into their worldview.

Sometimes the path judge discredits others to justify his life. This is typical.
Actually, judges don't provide us valid arguments. They nearly always want offence or contempt. Their logic is reductive.

They lack self-criticism. They cannot notice their mistakes or potential harm by highlighting their behaviours and words. They transfer all criticism onto others.

People who judge our route rarely have true lives, strong interests, or hobbies that help them put things in perspective and cease focusing on others.
Illustration: my route is different.

Protecting yourself from others' opinions
We often maintain that these judgements don't effect us, especially if they come from a coworker or stranger.

People often feel offended and hurt in this situation. First, stay calm and focus on yourself with words like:

After boosting your self-esteem, avoid nasty comments.

Contempt or fury prolongs bad sensations. They will damage more.
Show dismay. No one should evaluate you that way. Let those who evaluate you without knowing you know they disappoint.

Travelling with someone who criticises your paths is unwise. Mother, brother, or partner—it doesn't matter.
The person who judges you for being wrong has a high self-esteem.
A person who believes they never make mistakes or bad decisions lacks self-criticism and empathy.

Foreign opinions will shame you if you solely accept value judgements from others.

In this instance, you must decide if you should avoid those who cannot recognise your worth, light, and honesty.

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