Part two

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This is the second part of our show announcement. We have raised $58 SBD and need a total of $388 SBD at the current rate. Your vote will help us get there. All SBD earned from this post will go towards the goal. Our show airs every Sunday at 7:00 pm UTC or 2:00 Pm EST. ( That's today!) I cannot wait to see all of you there. During the show we chat a bit, play a ton of music, and interact with everyone in the chat room. We love love and have been chatting about romance with single folks in mind. Come give us your thoughts and opinions.

WHAT SHOULD HAPPEN ON THE FIRST DATE?

First, you should spend a lot of time to get ready. You are supposed to try and impress your date. As said above, first impressions count and this may be the only chance you get. If you are a guy, it can definitely help to bring flowers or just a single flower.If you already met each other in a social place, it is okay for the guy to pick you up at your place. If you met on the internet, then it is a big no. Arrange to meet in a public place. Scotty and I met on the internet, but I met him at my house where there were other people present.

After you maybe had a casual coffee date, dinner is the next step.

The point of going on a date is get to know each other. Dinner. This will give you enough time to talk. A sign that you will be a good fit is if you find it easy to talk to each other, enjoy the conversation, and laugh together. Be open and honest, be natural, show who you are. Beware to not talk too much, and to give him/her time to talk, too. If it is too awkward, or you do not agree on anything, it might be a sign that this will not be your future life-partner.
If you are drinking alcohol, make sure to drink in moderation. You cannot judge a person if he/she drank too much; it even should spell immediate danger. It also affects your judgment. At the end of the evening, for first dates, the guy should pick up the tab and take the lady home. If you are a lady, this will be a good sign if he is doing this. It will mean that he at least has an idea how to be romantic and be a gentleman. If you feel there was chemistry and things went really well, then you can say goodbye with a kiss. If not, rather just give a hug and see what happens on the next date.

KUBBY: Being self aware and knowing your limits.

Balance looks different for each person. Then again, I’ve never kissed on the first date, so maybe I need to try that, lol.
SONG 6: Bebe Rexha - “Meant to Be” (feat. Florida Georgia Line) If you wake up with a smile and are thinking about this new person you met, don't let a lot of time pass before contacting this future prospective mate. It is not a game. If you are interested, send a text or phone and say you had a good time. If you really enjoyed each other's company, you can make the next date.Future dates should be spent doing activities you like.

Take turns to plan dates and see if you two will be compatible.

Now is the time to get your "mind picture" and see how many of your requirements he/she is fulfilling. Maybe by now you have seen enough to realise that you can be a good match. If you have fallen in love, head over heels, proceed carefully. Try to slow things down in order to get to know each other even better. Spend time with other people. This will also give you a chance to see how he/she is acting towards other people. Put off being intimate; if you are a Christian, you would like to avoid situations that can be a temptation to you both. If things are not going smoothly at the beginning of a relationship, it is a bad sign already. With all the hormones at work, it should feel like roses and moonshine.

If not, don't waste your time.

Move on and search for the next potential mate. Before Scotty, this guy came and took me on a short road trip, although we were chatting lots on the phone and got along fine on the phone. On this trip, we were arguing the whole day. We could not agree on one thing. At the end of the day I told him, sorry I can see this is never going to work. He was very disappointed and asked me how I could tell so soon and I said, well look at the evidence of the day. So I quickly moved on. If you are serious in finding a life-partner, don't waste time.

KUBBY: Troubles will come. Expect it, work through it, and learn to just be patient in the meantime.
SONG 7: “Bem que se quis” - Marisa Monte

KUBBY: Comment on jealousy being a warning sign.
SONG 8:Chris Isaak - “Wicked Game HD”

Step 5: How to go from dating to couple

WHEN TO ABSOLUTELY NOT PROCEED WITH A RELATIONSHIP

BIG WARNING SIGNS

If you notice that he/she is manipulating and always want to manipulate you into doing what he/she wants.
If you notice that there is or might be an addiction. I plead with you, break it off don't set yourself up for a lifetime of heartache.If you notice that he/she gets aggressive easily and can't control their emotions.
If he/she is very jealous, doesn't want you to speak to other people, starts accusing you of things, etc.

He/she not making you a priority.

If this happens so early on in the beginning of a relationship where it should be all moonshine and roses, then you will be grossly neglected later on in a relationship. A meanness towards old people, children, and animals. If any of the above signs are there, break off the friendship. As said above, if you continue this and you go over into a long-term relationship and/or marriage, your life will be full of problems and heartache. Value yourself enough to spare yourself this; there are lots of people who are looking for a life-partner, and you will find another candidate.

If you identify any of the above warning signs in your life, don't consider to be in a relationship for now.

We live in a wonderful world full of technology and help is available everywhere. Even if you can't afford professional help, you can browse on the internet for self-help courses for your problem. See a pastor or a social worker, but please reach out. You are also worth it, to be a better version of you. You also deserve more than having these problems and continuing to destroy your life. You can do it, anyone can get help and change, but the change always starts with you. Once you have sorted out the problems, you can start to look for a life-partner again, knowing that you will be the best you can be and it is in your ability to make yourself and your partner happy.

SONG 9: The Collins Kids - “What'cha Gonna Do Now”
Very silly song. I also think it’s the wrong one. Changed it to this song, James Arthur - “Say You Won't Let Go.”

HOW TO PROGRESS FROM DATING INTO A RELATIONSHIP AND TO BEING A COUPLE?

After you have gone on a few dates and had a good time, to become a couple seems like the reasonable next step.

You have shared interests, share a sense of humour, and just like to spend time together. Or you are so much in love, you feel like spending each waking moment with this person. Don't rush into a relationship; rushing into a relationship can be a recipe for failure. Although to be open is a good thing, don't disclose everything about yourself. Past relationships and what you are looking for may be overwhelming and even a turn off to your new partner. Proceed with caution.

KUBBY: It all takes time.
SONG 10: Larry & Lorrie “The Collins Kids. There'll Be Some Changes Made”

Set clear boundaries and expectations. Make sure that you are on the same page about how fast you want to proceed with the relationship. If and when you will sleep over, have sex, move in together. If both of you do not have the same expectations it can lead to trouble. If you are a Christian, you will have to clearly set your boundaries on physical intimacy—what will be allowed and what will not.

Make time for each other.

The only way to get a person inside and out is to spend quality time together. Do things where you can talk a lot, like a picnic, a walk in the park, dinner together, etc. The more you can talk, the better you will get to know your girlfriend or boyfriend. That said, also give each other space. Still allow for separate activities, for instance for her to spend time with her lady friends, and the guy still have his time with the guys. But you should spend more time with each other than with other people. Get to know each other's families, family events, and traditions. Do your utmost best to accept and start loving your partner's family. If you can't do this, it also will spell trouble ahead. Just enjoy your partner; give the best of your time, love, and emotions to this partner that you were looking for, for so long. If you do this, the relationship should be a success.

I can tell you a life-partner and marriage is something wonderful to experience and to enjoy.

But you have to put in time, love, and attention. It is like a garden: if you tend to it, it will give you much pleasure with beautiful flowers, but if you neglect it, it will bring you pain, bringing forth weeds and thorns. So make sure to tend to this new relationship you are nurturing for maximum enjoyment and happiness.
I conclude with this verse of the Bible, Ecclesiastes 9:9 Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain life which He has given you under the sun, all your days of vanity; for that is your portion in life, and in the labor which you perform under the sun. (NKJV)

SONG 11: One Direction - “What Makes You Beautiful”

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