By: Shawn Alli
Posted: October 10, 2017 (on http://www.shawnalli.com/)
*Note: This is going to be a very touchy article that may rub you the wrong way. I recommend that you have some dark chocolate, blueberries or almonds on hand while reading. It'll help calm the nerves.
*Note: I use the term liberal trifecta to refer to liberals in general, liberal/progressive/neo-liberal media outlets, and Democrats.
Parenting & Child Services
Open Marriages & The LGBTQ Family Model
Parenting & Child Services
I'm not going to sugarcoat anything. I have a lot to say and I'm going to say it in this article. Parents today have forgotten how to parent. Yes, there's a GSIG agenda to break up the family unit.
Yes, that doesn't make sense if religions (which espouse family values) are controlled by Global Special Interest Groups (GSIGs, see The Deep State). And yes, the digital information age is making parenting more difficult than it should.
But despite all of that, parents are ultimately responsible for the development of their child/children up to 18 years of age. After that, you can blame society. But until then, if your child messes up badly, it's your fault as a parent.
Yes, using McDonalds, TV, internet, and video games as a reward-punishment system is easy to do. But that's lazy parenting. You didn't come here on this planet to live a lazy half-assed life. Aside from your specific purpose that your find/create, you've come here to have genuine experiences.
Yes, today's children are flooded with so much conditioning every second of their lives. But that doesn't mean that the easy path is the right path. Sometimes it is. Sometimes it's not. In regards to the growth and development of a human being, it's not.
And this is the challenge and opportunity for growth that all parents will experience. Hence, it's understandable for parents to experiment with different forms of parenting (co-parenting, alternative parenting).
Yes, there are parents who are choosing not to reveal the sex of their child in order for them to choose their gender. While that's odd, a child can't legally make a real choice. In regards to family custody cases, the reason why a child doesn't have the right to choose their family is because they can't legally consent. Yet, LGBTQ parents are treating their children as if they can. That's a potential problem.
Would you take the word of a child seriously when he/she says that they want to live as a squirrel in the wild? If not, then why take them seriously when they say they want to be a different gender than their sex?
Allow me to be clear. I'm not against the LGBTQ community. Many conspiracy theorists are very much against the LGBTQ community because they feel that they're losing their children to LGBTQ/liberal conditioning. As I mention time and time again. Almost everything you experience is a battle of competing ideologies.
As a conspiracy theorist, I can make a rational argument against the LGBTQ community while advocating for heterosexual families. But just as I push you to think outside the box, I do so as well and find that it's impossible to rationally be against the LGBTQ community and the development of homosexual families (see Bill Nye Saves the World Series Debunked - Season 1, Episode 9 - The Sexual Spectrum).
But just because I support the LGBTQ community, that doesn't mean that you should take the word of a child seriously in terms of their gender differing from their sex. Until they reach 18 years of age, you are the law (unless you give up your power to the government).
It's better to play it safe when they're young (you as the law). As they enter their teenage years, start to loosen your iron grasp on their perception of reality. But if you can't handle the pressure, you should be aware of what will happen to your child in government care. I'm warning you ahead of time. It's not pretty:
At least 786 children died of abuse or neglect in the U.S. in a sixyear span in plain view of child protection authorities — many of them beaten, starved or left alone to drown while agencies had good reason to know they were in danger, The Associated Press has found. [1]
After a lifetime in government care, being bounced from home to home and having his culture and mental health problems largely ignored, Alex Gervais died alone, scared and depressed.
That's despite the government paying a caregiver more than $8,000 a month to look after the 18-year-old. It was also after social workers rejected offers from at least two close relatives offering to have Gervais live with them, a new report by the representative for children and youth says.
Gervais died after he jumped from a fourth-storey window of the Super 8 hotel in Abbotsford in September 2015. [2]
British Columbia's children's advocate has reviewed the childwelfare system extensively over the years, finding numerous instances of children being placed in homes that weren't adequately screened.
Mary Ellen TurpelLafond, B.C.'s representative for children and youth, said some caregivers had criminal records involving sexual offences, but were used because the welfare system was desperate for a placement. [3]
New research that for the first time calculates disparity in Ontario's child protection system has found that aboriginal and black kids are far more likely to be investigated and taken into care than white children.
The figures are especially stunning for aboriginal children. They are 130 per cent more likely to be investigated as possible victims of child abuse or neglect than white children...
Aboriginal children are also 168 per cent more likely to be taken from their homes and placed into care.
The study also found that black children are 40 per cent more likely to be investigated for abuse or neglect than white children... [4]
One in every hundred children living in care is abused every year in Britain, according to the most comprehensive study conducted into the issue.
The research by York University and the NSPCC is the first of its kind to uncover and analyse local authority records on abuse in foster and residential care.
Academics tracked abuse allegations – and their outcomes – between 2009 and 2012. They found that on average there are between 450 and 550 cases of proven abuse every year in foster care and between 250 and 300 cases of confirmed abuse a year in residential care. [5]
First Nations and Metis children make up twothirds of the children in government care in Alberta, although they make up only nine per cent of the province's population that is under 18.
A Calgary HeraldEdmonton Journal investigation has found 78 per cent of the children who've died in foster care since 1999 are aboriginal. [6]
Imagine you're a mother arriving at court, fighting for the right to keep your baby who was removed from you just after birth. Your local authority now says your child should be adopted.
...And the reason you have lost your last shred of faith is because your council is one of 12 in England that have been shown to set targets for the number of children they aim to have adopted. [7]
At least 233 cases of sexualized violence against young people in the care of the province of B.C. have been reported since 2011, according to a report from B.C.'s representative for children and youth.
Mary Ellen Turpel-Lafond said the actual number of victims is probably much higher, because many cases go unreported. [8]
Storm, 32, is a product of Oregon's foster care system, which she said left her unemployed, in debt and dependent on welfare as an adult. Though she maintains the semblance of a normal life for Lily, Storm struggles to make ends meet.
Storm gently placed her hands on the paper trail that chronicles her tormented path of bouncing between foster homes, taking prescribed antipsychotic drugs she says she didn't need, and suffering physical and sexual abuse while in state care. [9]
A mother who says she was forced to hand her daughter over to government care is suing the B.C. Ministry of Children and Family Development after 21-month-old baby Isabella died while in foster care.
The child was found dead in March 2013, and while a coroner's report didn't determine a cause of death, it did find that Isabella had fractures in her left arm and bruises on her arms, legs and face. [10]
Jeffrey died in 2002 after he was placed in the care of his maternal grandparents, Elva Bottineau and Norman Kidman, by the Catholic Children's Aid Society of Toronto. He was kept inside a cold, locked bedroom with an older sister. The two were beaten repeatedly, rarely fed and forced to drink out of the toilet.
He weighed just 21 pounds when he died, less than he did on his first birthday. His grandparents were convicted of seconddegree murder in 2006 and sentenced to life in prison.
The CCAS admitted that it did not check its own files on Bottineau and Kidman before placing Jeffrey in their care. Had officials done so, they would have discovered the pair had separate convictions for assault on their own children. [11]
Three decades before Ed Murray was elected as mayor of Seattle, an Oregon child-welfare investigator found that he had sexually abused his foster son, prompting state officials to conclude that "under no circumstances" should Murray serve as a foster parent in the future. [12]
There are 3,300 children and youth in 484 group homes in Ontario, according to the ministry. Those homes, along with foster parents and children's aid societies, generate almost 20,000 serious occurrences filed provincewide every year.
Yet the ministry does not know, for example, if physical and chemical restraints are being used more or less often over the years, or if more children are sustaining serious injuries while in care. [13]
Three children in government care have died in the past six weeks in Alberta, including an eight- month-old baby.
Using documents obtained under freedom of information rules, the series revealed the province had used its privacy laws to avoid telling the public about the deaths of 89 children in care since 1999. [14]
Allow me to be clear. There are many situations that warrant children being placed in government care. And from working in Northern Aboriginal communities in the past, that statement also applies to Aboriginals.
It's a touchy subject. On the one hand, children need protection from abusive homes. On the other hand, weak family units can become stronger if they receive help from people/groups who won't rat them out to child services.
The problem is that governments are watering down the term abuse and almost anything you do today counts as abuse.
Are you yelling at your child? That can be considered abuse by the liberal trifecta.
Do you force your child to eat vegetables when they want junk food? That can be considered abuse by the liberal trifecta.
Do you spank your child from time to time? That can be considered abuse by the liberal trifecta.
And yet, in the past, all of this is an acceptable form of parenting. When GSIGs lay out the script, it's virtually impossible for the liberal trifecta to go against it.
You can even reinterpret this argument as a pro-abortion argument. If you choose to give up your kids, they're most likely going to live a sh*t life. And generally speaking, that statement is correct. Which is more true for black and brown visible minorities. Whether foster care children are placed with liberals or conservatives, the quality of their lives will most likely be significantly diminished.
Of course, it's possible for children in foster care to turn their lives around. But if they're not born, they won't have that opportunity. Hence, my 3rd trimester pro-life stance. If you're an expecting mother and considering an abortion early on, I recommend radical dualism to help you decide.
If you're a child in foster care that doesn't want to become another statistic and wants a better life, I recommend radical dualism (see Philosophy of Mind in Philosophy Reborn Part I: Purpose and Autoimmune Diseases for Everyone in Part IV: Naturally Unhealthy Big Pharma & Big Media).
One of the alternative solutions for parents, instead of giving away their responsibility to the government, is to drug their children. And though I'm very much against the drugging of children and teenagers, from a non-judgmental point of view, I understand. Parents are doing the best they can at their current level of development. If you're in this situation, or know others who are, I recommend radical dualism
Sadly, drugging is a standard practice for children in foster care. Don't believe me? See for yourself:
Roughly 1/3 of Delaware's almost 800 foster children currently are prescribed at least one psychotropic drug, according to the Delaware Division of Family Services. Though a decrease from previous years, that number is a snapshot which has not yet been studied thoroughly.
In 2013-14, some 40 percent of Delaware's foster children were taking drugs meant to regulate their behavior and psychological state, and 22 percent of them were taking three or more such medication, according to the only comprehensive study of the topic conducted so far in the state.
..."I was diagnosed with bipolar and oppositional defiant disorders. They tried to put me on several different medications when I was younger. They put me on Abilify, Geodon, Ritalin, Prozac. It was a whole list of medicines. At one point they tried to put me on Wellbutrin for depression," Weimer said. "On some of the medications, there were times when if I stood up I'd get dizzy. After a while, I just stopped taking them. I wasn't doing it no more." [15]
Oppositional defiant disorders? Yikes. That's ideological science and propaganda on steroids. And Big Pharma in foster care continues:
As a teenager in foster care, Chris Nobles was on a steady diet of psychiatric drugs—an antidepressant, an anti-seizure medicine and a powerful antipsychotic.
"It felt like having a very heavy blanket pressed against my mind," he recalls.
...Now 23 years old, Mr. Nobles lives on his own and doesn’t take any medication ("Not even Nyquil," he says). He has a full-time job training foster-care case workers...he has joined a wave of foster-care alumni across the nation sounding the alarm about how freely psychiatric drugs, including strong antipsychotics, are doled out to kids. [16]
Psychotropic drugs are being prescribed to nearly half the Crown wards in a sample of Ontario children's aid societies, kindling fears that the agencies are overusing medication with the province's most vulnerable children.
According to documents obtained by The Globe and Mail under Ontario's Freedom of Information Act, 47 per cent of the Crown wards - children in permanent CAS care - at five randomly picked agencies were prescribed psychotropics last year to treat depression, attention deficit disorder, anxiety and other mental-health problems. And, the wards are diagnosed and medicated far more often than are children in the general population. [17]
The GAO's [US Government Accountability Office] report, based on a two-year-long investigation, looked at five states -- Florida, Massachusetts, Michigan, Oregon and Texas. Thousands of foster children were being prescribed psychiatric medications at doses higher than the maximum levels approved by the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) in these five states alone. And hundreds of foster children received five or more psychiatric drugs at the same time despite absolutely no evidence supporting the simultaneous use or safety of this number of psychiatric drugs taken together. [18]
Almost half of children and youth in foster and group home care aged 5 to 17 — 48.6 per cent — are on drugs, such as Ritalin, tranquilizers and anticonvulsants, according to a yearly survey conducted for the provincial government and the Ontario Association of Children's Aid Societies (OACAS). At ages 16 and 17, fully 57 per cent are on these medications.
In group homes, the figure is even higher — an average of 64 per cent of children and youth are taking behaviour-altering drugs. For 10- to 15-year-olds, the number is a staggering 74 per cent. [19]
The popular television host and author [Dr. Phil McGraw] on Thursday pleaded with lawmakers on Capitol Hill to fix what he said is a "broken" foster care system.
Testifying before the House Ways and Means Committee, McGraw said children in foster care are being overprescribed psychotropic drugs when the government should be paying for treatment from psychotherapists.
"The system is broken and it is flawed," McGraw said. "We want to change this model, we want to help these kids. They've been through enough." [20]
The fact that Dr. Phil is saying this should give you an idea of how broken the system really is. Of course, anyone who's ever worked with people in foster care or at-risk youth will understand that pharmaceutical drugs are the easiest path of least resistance in the short term.
But in reality, it's not helping anyone. Not the at-risk youth or you as the support worker. Drugging a person is not a genuine solution. It's an action that says I don't understand person X so I'm going to drug them.
To be fair, all psychotherapy is unfalsifiable as well. But at least psychotherapy is a genuine attempt to resolve a deep issue. Again, if you're an at-risk youth taking pharmaceutical drugs, remember that people can't legally force you to take such drugs. You have to do it voluntarily. It's up to you.
I'm practical about such things. If you don't want to resolve the problem/deep issue, take the drugs. If you do want to resolve it but don’t know how, I recommend radical dualism (see Philosophy of Mind in Philosophy Reborn Part I: Purpose and Autoimmune Diseases for Everyone in Part IV: Naturally Unhealthy Big Pharma & Big Media). If you're not sure you want to go into radical dualism, I suggest equine-assisted therapy.
And then there's the sex trafficking of children in foster care:
In 2013, 60 percent of the child sex trafficking victims recovered as part of a FBI nationwide raid from over 70 cities were children from foster care or group homes.
In 2012, Connecticut reported 88 child victims of sex trafficking. Eighty-six were child welfare involved, and most reported abuse while in foster care or residential placement.
In 2012, Los Angeles County, California reported that of the 72 commercially sexually exploited girls in their Succeed Through Achievement and Resilience (STAR) Court Program, 56 were child-welfare involved.
In 2007, New York City identified 2,250 child victims of trafficking. Seventy-five percent of those experienced some contact with the child welfare system, mostly in the context of abuse and neglect proceedings.
Our very broken foster care system has become a supply chain to traffickers. [21]
The raids, carried out by nearly 4,000 local, state and federal officers, brought renewed attention to the vulnerabilities of foster children, who are disproportionately targeted and recruited by child sex traffickers, sometimes right out of the foster care system.
...60% of runaways who are victims of sex trafficking had been in the custody of social services or in foster care. [22]
"Human trafficking is not a monolith. There are many components," Harris said, adding that "of all the discrete parts contributing to our concern about human trafficking, our foster care system is a big one...The foster care system in California is not working."
During her address, Harris said that 59% of children arrested on prostitutionrelated charges in L.A. County spent time in the foster care system. [23]
Why is the treatment of foster care children so horrible? Because most government officials, staff, and service workers are atheist liberals who see children as potential commodities for their government.
Many foster care executives and staff don't see the children as human beings. They see them as animals that need to be tamed. In the past, US researchers even test AIDS drugs on them, all with the permission of the US government. [24]
Remember, liberal atheists don't see love as being an intrinsic part of a child's development. They see it as chemicals and neurotransmitters that create necessary delusions. They see the mind as a biological computer with data in and data out. These people don’t really care about your children. And the foster care horror stories continue:
"I was removed from a safe environment at home with my mom where I wasn't abused or neglected to a situation where I was very much unsafe,: said Clement, 21, who signed himself out of the foster care system at 18.
...New York City is the third worst jurisdiction in the country in terms of the average length of stay for a child in foster care and it is largely due to an overburdened family court system...
..."The vast majority of our clients are there [in court] for charges of neglect and not abuse but charges of neglect are often difficult to disentangle from the underlying issue, which is poverty." [25]
An Edmonton-area mother is challenging an attempt by the Alberta government to legally bar her four-year-old daughter from receiving a marijuana treatment the mother says has successfully quelled her daughter's debilitating epileptic seizures.
The mother will be in court today seeking to strike the province's application for a supervision order, which would stop the woman from giving her child cannabidiol.
..."I put her through it for four-and-a-half years," the mother said, breaking down in tears. "I followed every order that was provided to me from all of the neurologists who jumped on board to help her, or say that they were helping her. And it wasn't.
...The mother doesn't know exactly how Child and Family Services learned she was giving her daughter a marijuana derivative. She said a case worker showed up on her front step one day and threatened to take away her daughter if she did not stop giving her the cannabidiol. She refused. [26]
While I'm sure there are very good case workers that strive to protect children, the above Alberta case workers can burn in hell (even though I don't believe in it). Remember, the liberal trifecta blindly follows mainstream science. And that dogmatism in science still exists today (see A Broken Peer-Reviewed Process and Extra Sensory Perception in Philosophy Reborn Part III: Science).
And the baby snatching continues:
It was only when his mother was diagnosed with post-natal depression that George's prospects looked bleaker. Not because his caring mother was feeling blue, but because in this, paranoid, post-Baby P era, the authorities take no chances. The slightest whiff of a mother unable to cope, and they swoop down, ready to whisk the baby away.
Rosie found her diary filled with visits from all kinds of ominous figures: social services, child protection officers, mental health workers, who offered little practical support but made her feel hounded. Soon, the suggestion was made that George — then six months old — might be taken away from her. Unsurprisingly, this made her feel worse, and so she was put on a cocktail of strong drugs. There was no option of not taking the drugs, according to the authorities. They could test her blood, they said, and if she had missed her medication, George could be removed. [27]
Again, these are not necessarily malicious people. They honestly believe that they're helping people. How are they able to maintain this level of delusion? Because that's the dominant GSIG ideology. These child care executives and staff are just following a script that they're told is correct. And since they're most likely liberal atheists, they won't question their bullsh*t dogma.
To be fair, religious conservatives won't question it either. While some things in life require extreme positions, most of it requires a balanced middle path. If you're not sure how to get there, I recommend radical dualism (see Philosophy of Mind in Philosophy Reborn Part I: Purpose and Autoimmune Diseases for Everyone in Part IV: Naturally Unhealthy Big Pharma & Big Media).
And the saga continues:
A familiar debate over how much freedom parents should give their children ignited Monday with the news that a Silver Spring, Maryland, couple had, for the third time, tangled with Child Protective Services for allowing their youngsters to take a walk on their own.
A couple of months after Danielle and Alexander Meitiv were found responsible for "unsubstantiated neglect" for allowing Rafi, 10, and Dvora, 6, to walk home from a park close to their home in downtown Silver Spring, they gave the children permission to do it again.
Responding to a call from a citizen, police collected the children and took them to CPS in Montgomery County where, 5 1/2 anxious hours later, they were reunited with their parents. [28]
Allow me to be clear. Child services will use any excuse to take your children away from you. Why? Because they don't believe that you're fit to be parents. They believe that your teachings are not in line with GSIG conditioning.
Personally, I believe things can get much worse in the future. I can see a Margaret Sanger like dystopia with parents applying for licenses in order to have kids. It may sound far-fetched to you now, but I believe that GSIGs will start rolling out such an ideology in the near future under the guise of climate change, population control, and safety.
And as I mention time and time again, yes, the US constitution is the strongest constitution on the planet. But the implantation of that constitution is remarkably weak. Hence, you'll get justice in the end, but only after they chip away at your soul. And that's not accidental. That's intentional.
And the foster care saga continues:
...Debra Harrell, the working mother who was arrested for letting her 9-year-old spend summer days alone at a park crowded with families; the widow who left four kids home alone for a few hours, only to have them taken by the state; and Kim Brooks, whose nightmare began when she left her kid in the car while running a quick errand... [29]
...child protection referrals have risen by 297% since the Children Act came into force 23 years ago, and assessments by social services have risen by 359%. The proportion of cases in which abuse was identified has plummeted from 24% to just under 8%.
"The vast majority of those do not injure or seriously harm their children, but government policy requiring risk assessment at quite a low threshold means that rather than feeling supported by social services, some families now feel fear."
As the number of applications to take children into care hits a record high, Devine argues that the system is overwhelming caseworkers and putting the most serious cases of abuse at risk of being missed. At the same time, many families who have done nothing wrong are being traumatised by intrusive investigations. "Research shows that if you put parents on the floor with stress, you’re not going to improve their parenting," she said. [30]
And why are child services traumatizing children and threatening parents? Because they're intentionally trying to break up the family unit under the cover of protecting the children. Or, if they can't manage that, they'll intentionally keep children in a toxic family environment. Don't believe me? See for yourself:
A...Supreme Court judge ruled the province's child protection service abused its authority in a case involving the physical and sexual abuse of children, which ultimately allowed a father to molest his child while the toddler was in the ministry's care.
In a scathing 341-page judgement released Tuesday, Justice Paul Walker labelled the failure as 'egregious,' negligent and a breach of duty and said some social workers showed a "reckless disregard for their obligation to protect children." [31]
A reckless disregard to protect children? That's not the result of a few bad apples. That's the result of a system designed to traumatize parents and children. Why? Broken toys are much easier to control with pharmaceutical drugs.
GSIGs (via Big Gov'tt and Big Pharma) get what they want from such actions. It's not rocket science. It just takes the ability to question your deep rooted ideologies about how societies really operate and the honesty to act on those realizations.
And the foster care saga continues:
A California family says they were kicked off a flight — and threatened with jail for the adults and "foster care" for the children — for refusing to give up a seat for their 2-year-old son, despite having paid for it, in the latest controversy for a major airline that was caught on video. [32]
In June, she received a call from the Children's Aid Society, saying the first dentist had reported her for possible "oral neglect" of her daughter.
"I couldn't believe it," Lopez told CBC Toronto in an interview this week.
Lopez wonders why a dentist would be allowed to report a parent without knowing all the facts, and why she now has a permanent case file with the CAS — even though she provided them with evidence of her daughter's dental work and was told the case was quickly closed. [33]
When low level airline employees and dentists can freely threaten to take your children away with no consequences, that should be a red flag to you that there’s a strong push in WE society to break up the family unit.
Why are child services doing this? Because they're following a GSIG script. Aside from the sociopath liberal atheist staff and crazy religious caregivers, many child care executives believe that they're doing the right things. Why? Because they've been conditioned to believe it. Why? Because that's the script that GSIGs want to implement. Why? Because a strong family unit that doesn't bend to authority can be a significant problem in the future.
This is one reason why Christians are stronger together. They see themselves as one loving family unit. Liberal atheists (especially climate change believers) may claim that they're a loving family unit, but when you believe that love is just a neurochemical, the family bond breaks down very quickly.
Open Marriages & The LGBTQ Family Model
And here comes the tangent right off the bat.
While many Christian conspiracy theorists extol the benefits of a loving Christian religious family, if everyone’s not on board, it’s quite problematic. As a teenager, when I openly questioned the bible for the first time it was during a family dinner. I don't remember the exact words but I think I asked what if all of it was made up. They stopped all movement and just stared. I had to turn the situation into a joke to ease the tension.
I see my Christian family as playing out the GSIG Christianity script. Others are playing out the GSIG Muslim script, or the Judaist, or the Hindu, or the atheist script. The thing they all have in common is their predictability.
By being part of a major religion, ones actions and reactions are quite predictable. And if a person is predictable, and you understand the programming (the script), they're more or less easy to control and manipulate.
The same is true of the family unit. Yes, I advocate for a loving family unit. But this loving family unit can exist without religions. You don't have to perceive reality through the framework of GSIG scripts. You don't have to reinterpret events in order to fit your particular religious ideologies.
If you want to learn more about yourself and your perception of reality I recommend that you rely on yourself (your own intuition) instead of religious GSIG scripts. If you need religions as a starting point or as a ladder, so be it.
But remember, you don't have to stay on that ladder. You can get off and get to your next destination point and explore that level. If you're lost or unsure where to begin, I recommend radical dualism (see Philosophy of Mind in Philosophy Reborn Part I: Purpose and Autoimmune Diseases for Everyone in Part IV: Naturally Unhealthy Big Pharma & Big Media).
Let's tie this back to open marriages.Again, I'm not judging. I don’t necessarily advocate for open marriages usually because of the complexities and problems it can create. Just Google "open marriages" and see for yourself.
But generally speaking, at humanity's current level of development, we don't have the emotional capacity to handle such relationships. If you feel that you and your partner can, great. But you don't need to push it on others.
Yes, many monogamous marriages are failing today. And yes, the divorce rate is just as high for couples that have no secrets from each other vs. those that do. Is it correct to say that the institution of marriage is failing? No.
People have been reproducing and cohabiting a shared space for all of time. Sometimes one partner leaves. Sometimes they stay for life. And no, you don't need to use turtles as an analogy for your monogamous marriage.
It's not that the institution of marriage is failing. Marriage is only as strong as the growth and development of each partner. And each partner is usually at a completely different level of growth. Even if you do grow together, it may not be on the same path. That's what you have to accept about marriage.
Just because your marriage doesn't work out doesn’t mean that you and your partner don't love each other. It's just that in your particular circumstances, the expression of that love isn't working for whatever reasons. Sure, you can go to therapy and maybe live a semi-fulfilled life. Or, you can let things unfold naturally and separate.
No one on this planet can tell you that one option is better than the other. No one knows. We only have our beliefs and our ability to make the best judgment possible at the time.
And just because you separate from your partner doesn't mean that it will mess up your kids. Your kids may already be messed up. While broken families tend to block potential growth, strong nuclear families also breed the same results.
Many middle class to rich families have the same broken homes as low income families. There's no right way to raise a family in the 21st century because each consciousness is different and incarnates on the Earth for a particular reason/various reasons (if you believe in radical dualism).
Shaping that consciousness into the framework of a Christian family, or a homosexual family, or a transgender family, or an atheist family adds new dimensions to that conscious being. It's not necessarily good or bad.
Just because person X has a difficult life with two gay parents doesn't mean that person Y will have the same experience. Just because person A has a great childhood with transgendered parents doesn’t mean that person B will have a similar positive experience.
Each layer of the game, each layer of reality adds to one's consciousness. Just because you have a positive experience in a heterosexual monogamous family doesn't mean that others will. What's true for you isn't necessarily true for others.
The LGBTQ movement isn't saying that heterosexual marriages should be outlawed. But heterosexuals are stilling calling on homosexual marriages to be outlawed. That's a problem. Again, the problem isn't the institution of marriage. The problem is the current level of development of each partner.
Yes, GSIGs are pushing the LGBTQ agenda for population control and to weaken the family unit. And yes, any conditioning from an early age will be a strong influence in your life. But your consciousness (as an adult) is quite capable of going beyond you childhood conditioning should you choose to do so.
Nothing is written in stone. Why not? Because consciousness can't be fully controlled or predicted. Anything and everything can change in the next moment despite decades of conditioning. That's the magic and mysterious nature of consciousness.
Just because GSIGs initiate an agenda doesn't mean that it's going to work, or that it will work in the way they want it. Even with all the conditioning on the planet, GSIGs have limitations on their ability to predict the actions of the public and individuals (see The Deep State).
Why is same-sex marriage now a constitutional right? Because Supreme Court judges only interpret the constitution relative to the current times we live in. Things change. People change.
Yes, there are many agendas in play. But your reasons for action X are always your own. Even if the end result is the same for millions of people, your reasons, your WHYs, of why you do X, is what's important.
If you're a Christian and want to live a homosexual life, then do so. Will it break up your current Christian family unit? Yes. But you're not here on this Earth to live a sh*tty unfulfilled life where you hide your true self. You're here to live the best life you can (within ethics of course).
If a Christian, Muslim, Judaist, Hindu, or atheist model is preventing you from living a genuine life, you need to let it go. Stop living the life or family unit that others are imposing on you and start living the life you feel is best for your growth and development (within ethics of course).
One last thing. Men need to keep in mind that men in general have been conditioning women for thousands of years. We’ve been conditioning them at every level of society on a chronic basis. That's layers within layers within deeper layers.
And there's no level of conditioning that GSIGs haven't infiltrated. While all of us face a labyrinth of conditioning every day, women have it the worst. And that's not accidental. That's intentional. Why? Because the GSIG sexism script has been playing out for thousands of years.
The fact that women can't really be themselves and wear layers of different masks isn't accidental. That's intentional. And many of these layers of conditioning are playing out in your relationship or marriage right now.
Realizing these layers of conditioning is a strong step towards empowerment and a genuine life. This process may lead you and your partner in separate paths. But they'll be genuine paths nonetheless.
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