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The importance and significance of preventing a Sub Drop
A Submissive drop. A thing that usually happens after a sexual intercourse, in BDSM relationships it usually happens after a rough session, and from that view point I will speak from experience, even tho, it happens in many different occasions. While the adrenalin, serotonin, and feremon, are high during sex, a lot of things that aren’t nececarely true are being said, like degrading things, words, like slut, whore etc… And while it lasts, it helps the moment and the high of the sex, the sub drop is what happens once the sex ends. Degrading, can turn you on, rough play can turn you on, but it’s not a full experience or a full circle without a thing called aftercare. In my opinion, unless 2 confidant people are fully selfconcious about having only sex without any further relation, aftercare is a must. And no dom is a real dom if he does not provide it. When you are dominating someone, and that someone, gives herself/himself to you, that person gives you the power to destroy her/him, and you should handle it with care, that’s why in a BDSM relationship, trust is a must. So, if after a rough sex, and degrading words, you get up and leave, without saying anything, or just turn to the other side of the bed, there is always danger of ur partner feeling worthless, used, danger of that person beliving those degrading words, or beliving she is only that. And that is what is a sub drop, and it’s a really ugly and nasty thing. It destroys confidance, self worth, and it can brake a person. So, the way you deal with it is aftercare.
Aftercare comes in many various ways. Depending on what works for different people, that is why, you should always communicate with your partner, what a partner loves doing after sex, what makes your partner happy. What calms her down, and what makes her feel loved or appreciated. That can be, a simple cuddling, embrace, those can be a bag of snacks and watching a movie, a kiss on the forehead, whatever you do make sure that the person you are with does not feel irrelevant, used, since she did make a decision to trust you and give herself to you. And that isn’t a small thing, it should be handled with care. I had minor or bigger expiriences with this, but the most significant was when a partner of mine was dealing with issues… And after an amazing sex while she was still in my arms, she broke down, and she started crying, after such a high, a drop caused all her issues, and problems to flow out of her at once, and it would end really bad if I just got up and left, instead, I embraced my partner firmly, and kept holding her, while close, while she calmed down and finished crying. Crying wasn’t out of sadness, or out of feeling worthless, it was tears of relief, teras of being able to cry in front of someone without being judged, able for someone to see the real you and respect and appreciate you for it. Aside sexual fulfillment, and saving someone from hurting him/her. It’s an amazing bonding experience. Later that person told me that the whole aftercare experience felt even better then the sex. Some things feed ur mind, not only ur body, and Dom/Sub experience isn’t full without those 2 together. So, what can I say, fuck eachother, but don’t forget to cuddle , kiss, or hug. Epsecialy for the males who think showing compassion or vaulnrability is weakness, it’s the opposite, it’s strength, it means you are confidant and in touch with your emotions, and you know how to control them. Nothing screams confidance like that does, aside showing that you are not a boy, but a man. Anyhow, it’s only my view on a matter, there will be more on the topic of BDSM, I hope you enjoyed it…