In the past two days, the sexual assault incident in the "room N" in South Korea continued to ferment, and the lower limit of "evil of human nature" stung the nerves of many people.
I received a submission from a mother yesterday and was very touched.
This letter is worth reading by every parent.
A letter to my daughter
Dear daughter, when you asked me what "Korea Room n" meant, I have to say that my mother was really surprised.
Child, now you still do n’t understand the word “sexual assault”, and you do n’t understand what kind of trauma those innocent children have suffered ...
But mom wants you to remember that this is a tragedy.
And if the tragedy is not deeply reflected, it will not be the last.
The next three "hidden rules of life" are what mothers want to tell you after careful consideration.
It can't bring you wealth, but it can add a layer of protection to your peace of life.
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All demons have a common face
Actually, mom saw the news before you asked that question.
At that time, my mother was still thinking about whether to talk to you about this issue.
After all, you have always been a sincere and kind child, and your mother doesn't want to let these evil things cover your eyes.
However, escape can't be rewarded for your good life.
You must understand that there are demons in this world.
And all the demons have an ordinary face.
Let's start with your question.
The reason why it became "room n" was because there were many "chat rooms" on that website, and the content contained a lot of pornographic images and information.
This is not the point.
What I want to tell you is one of these sections, called "Acquaintance Candid."
To what extent?
The people who candid can be your classmates, your neighbors, or even your uncles who look good in your eyes.
Are you shocked?
In fact, this is no longer news, and it is true in real life.
The report on child sexual abuse prevention in 2018 shows that in cases of sexual assault, the proportion of acquaintances committing crimes is 66.25%, which is close to 70%.
You know, some people live in masks.
The creator of the "room n" incident was called "Dr."
The name sounds very gentle, and there is an "good old man" style in his life resume-he has excellent academic results in school and has also served as the editor-in-chief of the editorial department of the school newspaper.
Looking at this face, can you think that he is the criminal who pushed countless girls into the abyss?
You can never guess how filthy acquaintances behind those seemingly amiable acquaintances.
Of course, in addition to sexual assault, there are many things you don't know much about now, and my mother also wants to take this opportunity to tell you.
Last year, a girl committed suicide by her boyfriend PUA.
What is PUA?
In simple terms, it is to control your mind through deception-that is, "brainwashing."
It sounds like this, but it hurts girls as much as cults.
The first second speaks sweetly to you, and the next second treats you as a "pet", constantly pounding your self-confidence, letting you fall from a confident and sunny girl to the abyss of inferiority and corruption.
That girl was like that last year.
Can you imagine it?
Her boyfriend, once a very good boy, graduated from a prestigious school.
While at school, he respected his teacher and cared for his classmates, and was gentle and considerate to her in the early stage of dealing with the girl.
Isn't this the kind of "warm man" you often say?
It was such a "warm man" that forced the girl who was in her youth to commit suicide.
What's more frightening is that those who like to play PUA don't feel that there is anything wrong with them, they just think it is a game.
Dear child, remember that we once watched a movie together called "Su Yuan".
At that time, you did n’t understand why you hurt someone ’s uncle, and you still showed innocence in court.
Take this opportunity to answer your doubts, and I hope you can remember-
There are always demons who are good at wearing masks, and they will be mixed in the crowd.
You have to believe in human nature, but don't lose your defense.
This is your first step in protecting yourself.
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The more "ruthless" you are towards others, the better others are towards you
Dear child, I have taught you since my childhood. As a girl, the most beautiful thing you can live is that you always have a good heart.
And you are so sensible, you really remember your mother's words.
You love small animals, and you are happy to share everything with your friends. You will be moved to tears when you see the heartwarming story during the epidemic ...
In this regard, my mother is really pleased.
But now, mother wants to tell you that you have to learn "ruthless".
That is to add a little edge to your kindness.
Don't be confused, boy, listen to what your mother tells you.
In this "House N" incident, those children who are as ignorant as you are, because they do not know how to refuse, have suffered such injuries.
After the bad guys got personal information, the bad guys threatened the girls to shoot indecent videos.
(Korean television imitation scene)
Those kind-hearted children, in addition to being afraid, think that everyone is just like themselves, and they can let themselves go if they ask.
But in the end?
When the bad guys get the video, the children become even more afraid.
Once forbearance, only intensified.
So, my dear child, you have to understand that when you only understand "goodness", your character will be doped with weakness.
And the greatest ability that "hearty heart" can give you is to refuse.
Last year, a domestic violence video caused a sensation across the entire network.
You are still young and born in a happy family like ours, so you are not particularly concerned about this.
But you know what?
Every time my mother sees it, she can't talk.
The man dragged her back to the room directly in the elevator, no matter how she called for help and resisted.
See how strong the man is, a fist comes up, how painful the girl should be, how desperate she should be!
And this is just a scene recorded by the camera. What will the girl experience after being dragged back to the room?
Maybe it's not a slap or a fist.
What's more terrible, however, is that the girl was raped by her boyfriend for half a year.
And the reason is just to choose her to trust her again and again under the apology and begging of her boyfriend.
Therefore, daughter, don't think that you will get a change of heart from the injustice.
For the devil, every concession you give will help him to hurt you.
This time they will hurt your body. Next time, it may be your life.
A 26-year-old man in Shanghai owes a huge debt to his gambling and needs his family to fill the hole every time.
As time passed, he took it for granted.
When her wife stopped doing this, he killed his pregnant wife ...
There is such a sentence in "Disqualification on Earth":
My misfortune is precisely because I lack the ability to refuse; I am afraid that once I refuse others, I will leave a crack in each other's heart that can never heal.
This sentence is how many kind girls worry.
But child, you must know that ruthlessness and goodness do not contradict.
Knowing rejection is not only a manifestation of respect for yourself, but also a weapon that allows you to filter demons and mortals.
Not knowing to refuse will only make you a humble "bad guy".
Because this world is like this-the more "ruthless" you are towards others, the better others are towards you.
This is your second step in protecting yourself.
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Silence is an accomplice of sin
There was one more point in the "room N" incident that hurt her mother's heart.
Many children feel very scared after being threatened or insulted, but few people choose to tell their parents about it.
The reason turned out to be that he had done something unforgivable and was afraid of being scolded by his parents.
This reminds me of the suicide female writer, Lin Yihan.
At the age of 26, she wrote her own novels of sexual assault into her novels. In the same year, she chose to leave the world.
There is such a fragment in the book.
The hostess Siqi was seduced by the teacher. When she and her mother said, "A female classmate and teacher are all right", the mother replied to her: Why is this girl so arrogant.
Since then, Fang Siqi chose to be silent, and she regarded this insult as her own sin.
At that time, when the mother read this book, she felt sad for Siqi, but she did not expect that the psychological state of Siqi was actually what most of the children who suffered in reality thought.
Thinking of this, my mother was really scared.
If it were you, would you feel it was sin?
If it was you, would you choose to trust your mother and tell me the first time?
It's hard to imagine, my answer is actually unknown ...
Dear child, I'm really sorry, I haven't talked to you about these issues before.
Now, mother really needs to take advantage of this matter to tell you these truths-
First, don't feel ashamed.
Children, do you know how many people are hurt, because they have shame in their hearts, can't they get out of this darkness in this life?
But it was obviously their fault!
Mom doesn't want you to do the same.
So, if you really meet such a bad person someday in the future, don't think it is your fault.
The crimes committed by the devil should not be borne by innocent people.
And if you are bullied and ashamed of it, you are hurting yourself twice.
Second, don't be silent.
Silence is the accomplice of sin.
When you choose to lick your wounds in this way, you are tantamount to "disguising" forgiving the evildoers.
The same tragedy will happen again and again in the future.
And the girl who will be harmed in the future will be someone else and yourself.
So, respect yourself and learn to speak first.
Finally, my mother wants to say ...
Dear child, I know that it is painful to expose the wound, but if you do not learn to ask for help, the wound will never heal.
Please always remember that no matter what happens, your mother is your strong backing.
But one day, my mother will leave this world before you.
So don't run away and learn to save yourself.
This is your last step in protecting yourself.
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Remember when you were born, your mother dreamed about what you would look like when you grew up.
What kind of university will you go to in the future?
What kind of person would you be?
Will you meet a boy who treats you like a treasure for the rest of his life?
...
Mother had imagined you in countless ways in the future.
And in the ten years you have been growing up, your mother has always spoiled you. You will have to go to a good university in the future to have a way out, and girls need economic independence to live elegantly ...
In fact, the biggest wish is to hope that you can grow up healthy and happy.
Finally, mother wants to say--
Surviving in this world will inevitably touch some darkness.
And if learning does not grow in the dark, it will never reach the sun.
So, remember mother's words, grow up happily.
Mom expects that you will be as carefree and sincere as you are now.
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