Pessimistic and optimistic; Your choice, determines your status!

in optimism •  6 years ago 

悲观和乐观;你的选择、决定了你的状态!

Pessimistic and optimistic; Your choice, determines your status!

前阵子、色彩(本人) 陪家里老人去医院改方。看着老人依旧笑眯眯的排队看中医,心里总觉得松了一口气;
回头观察,同样在等待的其他人,同样年纪的大多都是愁眉苦脸。就差把、我怎么又进医院了,这太糟糕了、之类字眼写在脸上。
还有一点是显而易见的,乐观的老人,相比于悲观的老人精气神、实在多了不止1点2点。即使是步履蹒跚也在很努力的前进。
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A while ago, color (I) with home old man went to the hospital to change. Looked at the old man is still smiling in line to see the doctor of traditional Chinese medicine, the in the mind always feel relieved;
Turn head to watch, also waiting for other people, most of us in the same age is pull a long face. Is bad, I how to hospital again, that's too bad, such as words written on the face.
Optimism, another thing is obvious, the old man, compared to the more pessimistic vitality, the old man was more than 1 point, 2 points. Even the faltering is very hard to move forward.

其实除了在医院,我们在其他地方也能明显感受到悲观和乐观的差异,这一次让我们潜入自己的意识深处。去屈就自己究竟是偏向悲观主义还是乐观主义。
知乎上有一句话,色彩 觉得这是在判断乐观悲观最简单的方法,也就是当乐观主义者再说。我今天很快乐的时候,悲观主义者会说我不太痛苦。很明显可以看出两者侧重点都不一样,悲观主义者的重点在于不幸与痛苦。乐观主义者的重点则是快乐与幸福。
如果这样还难以判断的话,紧接着请听一听在一些具体情景下双方的表现。

Actually, in addition to the hospital, we in the other place also can obviously feel pessimistic and optimistic, this time let's dive into the deep sense of yourself. To go for second best is biased towards pessimism or optimism.
There's a phrase on zhihu, color feel this is the most simple method in judging the optimistic pessimism, when the optimists say again. When I was very happy today, pessimist would say I'm not too painful. Clearly as you can see the two different emphases, pessimists misfortune and suffering is the focal point. An optimist is the focus of the joy and happiness.
If it is difficult to judge, then please listen to both sides in some specific situations.

比如在工作中。你们小组分配到了一个任务。而这个任务在完成过程中出现了许多问题,导致客户撤单。倘若你是个悲观的人。那么你会觉得这都是你造成的,并且会有一种完了完了,我以后该怎么办,这样的想法,在心里不停地冒泡。

Such as in the work. Your team assigned to a task. While this task, a lot of problems appeared in the process of complete, lead to its customers. If you are a pessimist. Then you will feel all of this is caused by you, and there will be a over over, I later what to do, such idea, in my mind kept bubbling.

这样的一次失败:使你把自己否定一无是处,完全不留任何余地。
但如果你是个乐观的人,那就不一样了,同样的任务中断客户撤单你可能一开始会有点难过,但是你不会一直背过,一直懊恼。你会让自己以及团队冷静下来。这些分析这其中的原因。你会认为现在的失败是暂时的,是我以后的成功积攒经验与教训,失败才不会将你击倒。
对自己有了判断之后,接下来自然是改变的时间了,如何改变悲观,色彩有几招想与大家分享。

Such a failure: make your own nothing, leave no room for completely.
But if you are an optimistic person, that's not the same, the same task interrupt customers cancellations you might be a bit sad at the beginning, but you won't be back, have been annoyed. You can make yourself and calm down for the team. The analysis of these reasons. You would think that the failure is temporary, now is my success later accumulate experience and lesson, failure won't put you down.
To the judge, the next natural is time change, how to change the pessimistic, color there are a few action want to share with you.

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No1:地点转移注意力,悲观情绪最忌讳的就是将悲观进行到底了,适时的转移自己的注意力也不失为一种好方法,但是我们应该把注意力引到哪里去呢?这很简单、
可以试看一部喜剧电影/读一读无脑笑话,逛一逛,很久没去的街区。挑一家符合自己喜好的餐厅美美的吃一顿。
当然、转移注意力之前还有一件事要做;那就是用笔写下让你感到悲观的事,在上面画一个大大的叉,之后就去尽情享受休闲时光、转移注意力吧。其实到后来又想起,也可以用纸条制止自己困在其中。

No1: site distracting, pessimism is the most taboo is will be whether the pessimistic, timely transfer your attention also can yet be regarded as a kind of good method, but we should put attention to where go to? This is very simple,
Can let a joke, a comedy movie/read, walk, for a long time didn't go to the block. Pick a restaurant conforms to their liking meimei eating a meal.
Of course, there is one thing to do before distraction; That is to make you write is pessimistic, a big fork in the above picture, and then go to enjoy leisure time, distracting. In fact to the later, again remind of, also can use a piece of paper to stop yourself trapped in it.

No2:自己反驳对抗。有些时候悲观想法一旦出现就会绵延不绝,悲观主义者;就像进入了一个死胡同、怎么也出不来。这时候有一个方法就是自己反驳自己;比如你生病住院被迫连续请假,悲观的你就开始担心,老板会不会就因为你请假了而开除你,而你被开除之后应该去做什么?
找不到工作怎么办?养家糊口怎么办?这时候、认真的想一想自己的价值,好歹还有一技之长,怎么会说开除就开除。几天的病假就当是好好的休息;不胡思乱想,才是消除悲观的良方。当然了,这只是比较浅显的一些技巧。更重要的还是你,对于自己、对于生活的认知。

No2: argue against himself. Sometimes pessimistic idea once appear, will be endless miles, pessimists. Just like entering a dead end, how also get out. At that time a method is to refute themselves; You are sick in hospital was forced to leave for, for example, pessimistic you begin to worry about, the boss will fire you for you leave, and after he was fired, you should go to do?
Can't find a job? Support a family? By this time, seriously think about their own value, somehow there are skills, how say fire was dismissed. A few days of sick leave is just a good rest; Don't entertain foolish ideas, is to eliminate the pessimistic. Of course, this is just a relatively shallow some skills. More important still is you, for myself, for the cognition of life.

(温馨小知识)
与大家聊一聊悲观与乐观的外在表现,以及内在体验的区别。并且教你如何改变悲观。当然、不是万能药,不是说你是一个乐观的人,你的人生就没有挫折。有些人可能会过度盲目。我们需要的是坦性的乐观;以及、需要乐观的时候乐观,需要悲观的时候、适度悲观。

(sweet little knowledge)
A chat with you pessimistic and optimistic appearance, and the difference of inner experience. And teach you how to change the pessimistic. Of course, is not a panacea, not to say that you are an optimistic person, your life, there is no setbacks. Some people may be excessive blind. What we need is a temple of optimism; And, need positive optimistic, pessimistic, moderate pessimism.

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