TINDER: MY EXPERIENCE!
Hello hello steemians!
Today I find you with a topic a little special, since we will talk about dating applications , especially Tinder. It's been a while since I wanted to write this article, and then I always rejected for fear of reactions, and also because my family reads my blog. Now, it's no longer a secret that I'm on Tinder, so I'm getting started. First of all, this article was absolutely not asked by the application, I write it myself and they are absolutely not aware ( I prefer to specify, given the number of post-sponsored hidden on the apps of meeting ... ). I will tell you about my experience and my feelings about this application, that Iahah ).
TINDER, WHAT IS IT?
Already, let's start with a little tutorial on Tinder, for those who do not know the application ( how is it possible? ). Tinder is a mobile dating app , to find love ( or not ). Basically, you fill out your profile ( often automatically with Facebook ), you choose some pictures of you , a quick description ( not required ), then you define your search parameters : age range of the guy, distance between you and them.
For my part, I put 22-30 years, and less than 10km. That's it, you know everything.
Once you have filled all this, you can see the profiles of the guys matching your criteria . From that moment on, you choose either to like or to ignore (be careful, in this case it is final unless you pay or redone an account ). When you like, either the guy likes the other way too and in this case you have a new match and you can chat, either the guy ignored you and in this case he is not even aware that you l you have liked and you can not chat. If you really want to get noticed and you want the guy to know about your like, in this case you need to superlikerhe will then receive a notification and may decide to like you or not. But beware, the number of superlikes is limited, so use them well!
You now know the basics of Tinder. ..!
MY EXPERIENCE ON TINDER
I use Tinder for more than two years , I start to be a regular and suddenly, it makes me a lot of things to tell! I have never hidden to be on this kind of applications, for some women it's taboo, if you're on Tinder you're necessarily a chagasse, etc, etc ... For me not at all, he There is everything, as everywhere, and it should not be so badly seen. Besides, I do not hide so much that at work, colleagues call me Tinder, great!
At the beginning when I registered, it was more out of curiosity, to see what it was and especially to see who was on this kind of apps (well yes, Dijon is small, we laugh quickly when we see some heads: friends, teachers, dudes couple ...! ). Moreover, two years ago, there were very few guys on Tinder in Dijon, it was quick to turn, it has developed over time.
From the beginning, I understood that there was an enoooorme sort to do if one wanted to make correct matches. Not that I want to find the man of my life on this kind of apps, but the shots of a night, it's not for me, suddenly, we quickly remove a good part of the guys enrolled!
Therefore, several types of profile to ban for me from the first seconds:
- Guys where there is only one picture , no description: it smells fake
- the guys where they are 15 in the profile pictures : you're on a dating app, I'm crazy about your friends, I want to see you.
- the descriptions of big loos
- the guys who do not come from the city where you live ( who are there just for a few days ) #JAimePasLaDistance
Once you have passed the barrier of the first seconds, you decide whether you play or not. Certainly, it's a judgment on the physical, you only see that, and it's not with the few guys who fill the description that you can judge on something else. And then thin, we will not hide it, the physical remains important, yes, it's not only that, but personally I could not be with someone who does not attract me a minimum ( throw- me stones, go for it ).
So, you like it or not, and expect to see if it liked the other way. Either that's not good, you're sad and you're going to attack the nutella pot , or that's it, and that's where the real things start!
Already, who comes to speak first ? I am the type to wait for the first message, it is rarely me who sends it, so it removes about 50% of the matches . I send a message when really I have a crush, or when I have something in particular to say ( a guy that I already met, a hook that comes naturally ).
Among the guys who come to talk to you first, you remove those who speak Kikulol , those who talk to you about their sex from the first message ( a good part, if so, really ), and those who bother you from the 30 first seconds. Once you've done all this sort, well ... there are not many people, a few guys here and there, who are worth a visit.
But after, what do you do with these relevant matches? Personally, I'm pretty adept at: we'll quickly have a drink to see if it sticks between us, because hey, talk hours and hours behind his phone if we have nothing to say in front, not really interest. Except that here, I'm suspicious, always a little apprehensive before a first appointment, afraid that it's a fake, a guy chelou, a madman ...
I therefore privilege:
- guys with whom I have friends in common ( in Dijon it goes fast, you have almost mutual friends with everyone, and at least you can dig a little on this side there to check that the guy is very nice #fouineuse )
- the guys I found on Facebook ( how do I stalke ?: hardly, but hey, must say, on social networks you can learn a lot about people! )
- well screened places : if I really know anyone in common, I always make sure to meet the person in a bar frequented , at least, no risk!
In the end, it happens almost always well, even if the feeling is not there and there is not necessarily any follow-up, I have rarely fallen into really awkward situations where we have nothing to say , where the appointment is long, long long ... I have one or two examples of guys with whom it was dead from the first moments ( I arrive and I kiss you live, euuuh dude you do what there ? ) but fortunately it's still rare. I sort it out from the beginning so much that I speak in the end only with people with whom I have affinities, things to tell, and I am almost always satisfied! Of course, I'm often a bit too shy for this kind of meetings, most guys on Tinder are looking for short relationships, one or two nights and basta, and even if they try to hide it by boat phrases, it feels pretty quickly!
So, Tinder, I recommend ? Yes, because there are always exceptions. I met guys really well on Tinder, guys with whom I had serious relationships ( although at the moment I'm still single and it did not work ), I met some guys who are today very good friends (well yes, we sometimes fall on guys with whom it hangs serious without wanting to be in a relationship with them ).
So some people will tell me, but it's not sad to meet people just behind a screen? Yes, in a way, I can understand it, it's simply simpler and faster . I'm the kind to be always on my guard when I go out, as soon as a guy comes up against me, I tell myself that it's going to be a reverence and I'm dodging ( sometimes wrong ), suddenly, difficult to make meetings real ( except for friends, or by chance it happens yes ). I have been very often in exclusively female sectors ( Psycho, Teaching), so how to meet guys in college in these cases? Tinder, it has simplified the meetings, from the moment you go very quickly to the real stage and where you do not spend too much time on the virtual stage. When I talk about Tinder, it also applies to other applications, I also tested Happn and I have the same feeling, even if I did less meetings on it.
I do not regret signing up at all, I have really met some nice people , even if I think it's a lot simpler when we only look for ephemeral relationships, I'm sure we can also make beautiful meetings and I also have many friends who met their guys on Tinder and with whom it still lasts! So, why not me someday? ;-)