Happiness is an Inside Job

in personaldevelopment •  7 years ago 

I am a firm believer that life is what you make out of it. Every day we have the choice of what to think and what to feel no matter what our circumstances are.

This is why I decided to start sharing in my posts some thoughts and ideas on this subject. I will be using famous quotes from the great minds of humanity which will support the idea behind the subject of each particular post.
The intention behind these posts will be to trigger the imagination of anyone who wants to consciously create positive habits and attitude in their everyday life regardless of the circumstances.

As the Greek stoic philosopher Epictetus said:

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Many years ago I had read a story somewhere in a book - I don't really remember which book it was - but it powerfully illustrates the meaning of the above quote when applied in our lives. The book could possibly be "Positive Thinking" by Vera Peiffer... If anyone recognizes the story, please either confirm me or correct me :)

Here is the story:
One day two people, unknown to each other, started driving to go to their work early in the morning. The first one was living in the east side of the city and working at the west and the second was living in the west and working at the east side. They were both using the same road to work but with opposite directions obviously.
That day, at some point of the road there was a duck crossing the street with her ducklings, something that forced the traffic to stop until they duck's family crosses the street.

When this happened, the first driver of our story started getting angry and upset, shouting, swearing and hitting his hands on the steering wheel saying:

"I will be late for work, I can't believe this is happening to me, where has this #@%@ duck come from - my day is going to be a mess today!!!"

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When the second driver was forced to stop and saw the duck crossing with her ducklings, he sat comfortably on his driving seat thinking:

"what a beautiful way to start my day, those ducklings are so beautiful and cute - I am so lucky and grateful this happened to me, I am going to have a beautiful day today!!!"

The moral of the story

We see the same incident happening at the same time to two different people. Each one of them had a complete different reaction to that same incident, which obviously had a direct effect in their physiology and mood.

This is a great example of what "happiness is an inside job" means.
Every moment we have the choice to react either as the first driver of the story or as the second...
And as Epictetus said, what matters is not what happens to us but the way we react to it!

Food for thought

  • What kind of reaction do you usually have in your everyday life circumstances?
  • What do you think you need to do to start having a more positive attitude in your life?
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This was really helpful! Thank you so much. I'm looking forward to reading from you. Just followed you! Have a great weekend! Cheers.

Thank you, have a beautiful weekend too!!

It's an actual disease. It's called "me" disease. You can spot it when someone uses language patterns like "you insult me / you hurt me / why this happens to me " and so on. People have to realize that they can only control how they react to situations and not the situations themselves.

Spot on @iliasdiamantis!

I agree and think it is vital to keep your mind positive or to train your mind to think more positive.When you fall into trap of always giving negative comments on situation its very difficult to get out of that pattern.

I absolutely agree @jacquesvanwyk, thank you!

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Thank you for sharing Michael,​ This is so very true and we see it all around us how people all react differently​ to the same event. Personally, ​I have found that having an​ attitude of gratitude keeps me present and makes me remember all the blessings I have.

You are welcome George! That's a great attitude you have...
Being present is a major key to well being!

Great post @shimster!
All you need to change your attitude is think about .. how is my attitude going to change X or Y? It will most probably not change it plus you are left with your bad attitude :P
So ... Just breath and go on! The best things are ahead!

Thank you very much @katerinaramm!
Exactly... We can only change ourselves and our perceptions...
Definitely best things are ahead! Keep up the positive attitude! :)

Nice post. Agree completely!

  ·  7 years ago (edited)

Thank you very much @terezakumric! :)

Very well said!! An very interesting approach to what is happiness! It is true that we choose if we want to be happy or not :)

Thank you very much!! :)