Being Honest With People Makes You Vulnerable

Are you your true self when you're with other people? Or do you prefer to put on an act in order to get along with most of the people who you meet? I have always been a pretty raw and honest person and sometimes this approach can easily get us into trouble. Being our true selves can sometimes scare or turn-off the people around us and they'll choose to go their separate way, rather than try to understand or focus on bonding over the things that you do have in common. Being real can sometimes lead you down a lonely path because you might not find many people who appreciate and value the real you.

But being a fake person can also lead you down a lonely road, where you'll eventually be surrounded by people who you have nothing in common with and who you might not really like and who don't like you genuinely either. So which road is preferable? Where would you rather be lonely? Would you rather be surrounded by a few people who know and appreciate the real you, or surrounded by a bunch of empty friendships that might dry-up the very moment you decide to expose what's really on your mind or what you're passionate about.

Opening up to other people and really telling them what you think or how you feel is a chance to expose the real you and it's also a chance to open your true self up to the judgment of others. This can be really hard for people, especially when it doesn't go so well. But being honest can also create and continue to foster a very deep connection with other people in your life.

What makes people vulnerable is also what makes them unique and beautiful, and it's a shame when people feel that they cannot share their real self with other people or the world. Many people see vulnerability as a weakness but I see it as a strength. It is daring to let your true self be seen by others and when we aren't vulnerable then we are distancing our self from our human experiences.

For those who aren't familiar with being so unexposed with others it can really be hard to develop this habit in life, learning to relax and take the chance that you can be yourself with others. Learning to be vulnerable goes along with learning to love and accept yourself, when you can do that then you will see how you don't need to seek for the approval of others in order to feel valuable. And when you learn to love yourself then it won't crush you to bits when someone you come across in life doesn't like you the way you think they should.

Being vulnerable can easily expose us to criticism and hurt from others, but it can also open us up to something real, truthful, and beautiful.