I think that it is the avoidance of the moment that leads to the situations that cause so much suffering. It may not be your avoidance, it could be mine that impacts upon you. If I was in the moment, I may realise the distress I cause to others and adapt to improve. Unlikely to convince others to adapt for my own well-being so instead, I attempt to take the responsibility for my own moment and try to reduce suffering for me and the suffering I may cause others.