Unfortunately good and kind people get hurt just because they care to much or are just afraid to lose people they love or need in their life. I agree with you, everyone should stand for himself and should first of all love himself...but what are you doing when your life experience got you to in that point you lose your self-confidence and trust that good things happen to good people?! The correct answer is to become even better, stop complaining, stop compare us with others, stop self-criticism and start appreciate all the good within us in our life.
Sometimes the things that happen in our lives put us directly on the path to the best things that will ever happen to us.
Very good article.