Opposites Attract - My advice for men

Yes, opposites attract. Having studied yoga and tantra, these ancient practices also teach that energy always flows between two opposite poles. Just like electric current flows between a negative and positive pole, (and the higher the difference in voltage, the stronger the intensity of the current), the same applies to sexual energy: in order for it to flow, we need two opposite poles – and the higher the difference, the stronger the energy is.

This does not apply to traditional male & female relationship only. Sometimes a man can be “feminine” and a woman be “masculine” – and this is valid for people of any sexual orientation.

When it comes to me however, I have an extreamly feminine essence. I prefer men who are fully in their musculine power. Only that kind of energy exchange can take me to oceanic depths and create an amazing sexual chemistry.

While the sexual energy can be wonderful between two high polar opposites, often they do not seem to understand each very well, you probably had a taste of what strong polarization feels like “outside of bedroom”.

Here is one single advice for a man that can change everything.

The greatest gifts the masculine can gift the feminine are actually so simple ~

PRESENCE. SPACE HOLDING. LISTENING

The sacred feminine is a mystery, she is ever changing like the ocean currents, she can never be 'figured out' nor 'fixed'. She simply needs space held for her to clarify her emotions so they can be transmuted through her. When a woman goes into melt down, she needs not a man to put together a strategy action plan for her or try to 'fix' her, she simply needs to be held, listened to, offered a shoulder to cry / yell / emote upon. The role of the masculine energy is to hold that space for her. Simply by being present for her... holding space for her; being there for her!

HOW DO WE ACTIVELY AND CONSCIOUSLY HOLD SPACE AND LISTEN TO ANOTHER?

It is really simple, in theory. But requires practice. Try & drop all agenda, all ego trying to be 'right' or 'smart' or the 'saviour' of the other when another is expressing. Simply focus on your breathing, connect to your body; and feel the other person. Often the words being expressed are just energetic clarifyers of emotion... they do not need to be provoked or figured out, on an energy level by you holding that clear and calm present space for the other is working so much unspoken magic and healing. Focus on your heart & allow the vibration of the others words to be received into your heart, not in your head. Let your body listen... it is all about feeling the other person & receiving them.

I find that it is one of the most beautiful things about life ~ the never ending dynamic dance of the feminine and masculine, the high polarities between us, and the sexual energy that is the basis af all creation. Ilze xox

Photos from my messy bedroom.