SELF-CARE, MOTIVATION AND HAPPINESS: # DOING THINGS THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY RATHER THAN DOING WHAT PEOPLE WANT YOU TO DO

SUMMARY:

Sometime i hear people say am not happy. The happiest people in the world don't have the best of everything, the just make the best with everything they have. You should appreciate yourself and with what you have, Before it becomes what you had.

Because before you know it you will start saying i once had happiness in my life, i don't know what took it away!!!

Become mindful the people around you:

People who have more self-love tend to know what they think, feel and want and also the kind of people that comes around them, but one thing we don't know is that 90% of your happiness comes from you nobody has the right to your happiness expect you want that.

For you to be happy you should be mindful of who you are and when you act on this knowledge, rather than on what others want from you sometimes when you relay on what people want you to do rather than what you want for yourself that is when you fall in to the hand of sadness.

Acting on what you want rather than what people want from you.

When you allow your friends to choose you and also make decisions for you then that self happiness will run away from you entirely, that is why you should not doubt you inner instinct, when you inner mind talks to you about something people are inducing you to do rather than what you yourself want to do for yourself and find self-happiness than you are not happy.

For you to love yourself when you can turn away from something that feels good and exciting to what you need to stay strong, centered, and moving forward in your life, instead. By staying focused on what you need, you turn away from automatic behavior patterns that get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past, and lessen self-love.

The act of practicing good self-care.

How do you practice or learn good self-care and happiness? You know sometime people tend to please others in placement to their own happiness, i know some of you will be saying you are right while some will say am wrong.
First thing first you happiness comes first before anybody else sometimes you will i don't want him or her to feel bad about it.

Why would you even think about that have you ever sit down and ask yourself if am the one will he or she do thesame for me? That is the question you should ask yourself, people shouldn't control your happiness rather it should be you who should do that.

You will love yourself more, when you take better care of your basic needs yes because it is when you have taking good care of yourself that you can be able to take good care of someone else have that at the back of your mind. People high in self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy and healthy social interactions.

Setting boundaries and Limits.

Yes i mean set boundaries and limits to where people should be, because are people who are well known self dominates they can dominate every thing in your life if you don't be careful that is more reasons why you should set boundaries and limits to where they can reach.

Having said that there are limits to what and where people should be in your life there are people that would want to know everything that is going on in your life, they will even want to make some vital decisions for your just because you gave them the chance in your life that is more reasons why you should set the boundaries to where they can not pass if not it will cause you your happiness.

You'll love yourself more when you set limits or say no to work, love, or activities that deplete or harm you physically, emotionally and spiritually, or express poorly who you are.

Protect yourself from self inducing people.

Some people will tell you that i don't have secrets, they can talk from now till tomorrow and the more reasons why you should protect yourself is because of the kind of friends you keep they are people you will tell your problem before you know it the whole world will hear it, and there are people who you will discusses your problem with no body will ever know. That is the more reason why you should be careful the kind of friends you bring in to your life

Bring the right people into your life. I love the term frenemies that I learned from my younger clients. It describes so well the type of "friends" who take pleasure in your pain and loss rather than in your happiness and success.

My suggestion to you here: Get rid of them! There isn't enough time in your life to waste on people who want to take away the shine on your face that says, "I genuinely love myself and life". You will love and respect yourself more.

Learn how to forgive yourself.

Sometimes i do hear people say if i do this i will never forgive myself, all because he or she wants to please someone of which at the end you will losing, why would you feel guilty for someone who care less about you when you are there killing yourself to please that person. I think it high time we learn how to treat our self well

We humans can be so hard on ourselves. The downside of taking responsibility for our actions is punishing ourselves too much for mistakes in learning and growing. You have to accept your humanness (the fact that you are not perfect), before you can truly love yourself. Practice being less hard on yourself when you make a mistake. Remember, there are no failures, if you have learned and grown from your mistakes; there are only lessons learned.

Live intentionally. You will accept and love yourself more, whatever is happening in your life, when you live with purpose and design. Your purpose doesn't have to be crystal clear to you. If your intention is to live a meaningful and healthy life, you will make decisions that support this intention, and feel good about yourself when you succeed in this purpose. You will love yourself more if you see yourself accomplishing what you set out to do. You need to establish your living intentions, to do this.