SUMMARY:
Self-esteem: first of all i will start by defining the word "self" a person's essential being that distinguishes him or her from others, especially considered as the object of introspection or reflexive action. Or i will say it simply one's particular nature or personality; the qualities that make one individual or unique.
Then the word "esteem" simply means the respect that you have as a person or as an individual and also esteem simply means the admiration you as an individual get from people. By so doing i hope i have being able to define the word self-esteem
How Do You Improve Your Self-Esteem:
Self-esteem can simply be improved by you as an individual to have self confidence on yourself, because if you don't believe in your self people will end up letting you down and there by you will no longer have confidence in yourself.
It will make you to always doubt your confidence.
So the best way to improve your self-esteem to think about what is affecting your self-esteem. Because i know some of us don't know what is letting us down you can check the kind of friends you keep because the kind of friends you keep can help increase or lower your self-esteem.
Because i do tell people and some of my friends that if you have a friends that doesn't help build your life in a positive way you should do away with such friend, the kind of friends you should keep are those friends that will help improve your self-esteem and also add value to your life if not you should not keep them at all that the first place.
Our self-esteem is how we value and perceive ourselves. If you have low self-esteem you may feel:
Don't Have This Like You Hate Or Dislike Yourself Attitude:
If you have been following my posts and articles you will see in my previous post where i wrote about self-happiness, for you to improve you self-esteem you should have what i called self-like, liking yourself is the first priority you should have as an individual.
If you hate yourself what do you expect from other people? Once you have self-like then you will see people loving you so you don't have any right to dislike or hate yourself, because you entitled to your own happiness no body have the right to decides when you should be happy and when to be sad. You should always make your own decision believe in your self and always say to your self that you can do it with out the help of anybody.
Don't Always Believe That You're Worthless Or Not Good Enough:
When you have or develop this attitude of believing that you are worthless or not good enough for people or that you are not good enough to do what your mates are doing, what you are showing to people is that your self-esteem is low and that you don't have self-confidence and that you don't believe in yourself.
When you believe that you are worthless to people or in a situation where you are suppose to make decision for people and you believe you can not do it, it simply means you are letting yourself down showing them that you're worthless and not good enough to take decision for or on behalf of the people.
You have to have the confidence in your self that you can lead and direct people or even play the role a lead and that you can stand on behalf of the people.
Not Being Able To Make decisions or assert yourself
Not being able to take decision when necessary or assert yourself makes you look worthless and it make people lose faith in you and not believing in your words. So you should learn how to take decision and assert yourself don't allow people to decide what happen in your private life, it a sign that you have low self-esteem.
When you allow people to make decisions for you especially when it is a vital one for that matter you are as good as nothing. So you should learn to choose your friends and not your friends choosing you because when this happened you are lowering your self-esteem.
Build The Attitude Of liking No One Like Yourself:
Some people can be so stingy to themselves, i wonder how someone will look at his or her self and can not be able to take his or her self out. It is called self-like. Yourself comes first before other comes so you should build this attitude of liking yourself like no other.
You Blame Yourself For Things That Aren't Your Fault
Why do you always choose to take blames for what is not your fault, I see some people they can take blame for other people's fault people will do something wrong and you will come and take blame for what you don't know about. So please stop taking blame for what you don't know about and saying its your fault.
Guilt For Spending Time Or Money On Yourself
Another way you can improve you self-esteem is by taking time to take yourself out once in a while, I can't imagine why people will feel guilty or been stingy on themselves, why will you be selfish on yourself or spending time or money on yourself.
Do you think spending money or time on yourself is a waste of time? Please you should stop be hard your self and make out time to spend a quite time without self and always take your self out once in a while.
Unable To Recognize Your Strengths:
One thing that lower our self-esteem is not being able to recognize what you can do for yourself, not being able to recognize your strengths and what you can offer for your organisation. You can some time site down and learn what you can been able to do, what your limits are.
So try and learn to recognize what your strengths is and not letting people to tell you what to do
Having little self-belief can stop you from living the life you want to live. If you think your low self-esteem is impacting on your life, take a look at our tips on improving your self-esteem: