EMOTIONAL HEALING

I've had my share of EMOTIONAL PAIN...who hasn't?

Over the past year, however, I've experienced a LOT of emotional healing. I'm finally in a great place where I can be a support to my friends going through emotional pain.

Yesterday, I was given this opportunity when my friend, still aching from a breakup two months prior, asked me this:

My Friend: "Remind me what healing looks like. How do I feel the emotions, and how do I grow from that point?"

Most of us have been here. The pain is thick and we can't see our way through it to even remember what "healthy" looks like (that is, if we even have a memory to pull from).

This was my response to her. It didn't solve her problem or heal her wound in an instant, but it helped her see a little clearer the path that leads to emotional health. I want to share it with my new Steemit Community in the hopes that it can lead someone else a little further down the path.

My Response: "Feel the emotions objectively. Don't fight them, or push them down, or shut them up.... accept them. Recognize they are just emotions, they aren't YOU, they are fleeting, and they don't control you. Just LOOK at them. Meditation helps you to look at things objectively. Don't let an emotion, and the thought that started it, tempt you down a rabbit hole of negative self-talk about who you are. Instead, let it lead you upward to your next level of healing by saying, 'yes, I'm currently feeling X, because of Y, but the truth is Z'. Then, repeat this process over and over and over. Being able to catch the first thought and emotion BEFORE you go down the rabbit hole, is the key! And, meditation makes you conscious of your thoughts, so you can catch them right away."

Her Reply: "Then healing and growth just happens?"

My Response: "That IS the healing and growth! As you do this, over and over, the wound gets a chance to heal, it hurts less, it becomes a faint memory. But, when you go down the rabbit hole, that's equivalent to picking at a sore. If you pick at a wound, it's NEVER going to heal. But, when you catch the thought that caused the first negative emotion, and THINK and SPEAK the TRUTH, your re-wriring your brain, equivalent to applying healing ointment and bandages to your wound. You promote HEALING!"

I'm not a therapist; I'm just a friend trying to help share positivity. If this was helpful to you, please upvote, comment, resteem, follow @coachjj. Let's connect!